China 4: body language prayer

there was a strange thing about being in China- it seemed like there was a wall between God and Me.  It took so much effort to offer a prayer to him.  I DON’T KNOW WHY!

It was a challenge to me also because it seemed the image of God i had built in my head was being swallowed up.  Being somewhere so new and foreign made me think.  Gosh, God doesn’t really fit into the little mold i had built for him in my head.  How do I speak to him now?

Though I did NOT do well with verbal prayer on the trip i started thinking about how everything in my life was somehow a communication with God.  A second look at a busty girl was telling him something.  I didn’t have to be addressing him to be communicating with him. 

So what can we learn about this silly little entry? That God is a lot bigger than English or Mandarin or anything in my tiny head.  He talks to us by putting events and people before us.  And we communicate with him by how we act in those situations.  What are we telling him with everything that we think say and do?

China 3: beauty of a broken vow

After a week straight of being around each other, and a few immature mistakes on my part, one of my coworkers seemed to quite peeved at me. 

They all knew that i had given up alcohol for this trip but it was at the company dinner, while everyone was drinking, that someone told me that this coworker was so upset with me. 

I recieved a moment of insight.  The reason I had been abstaining from alcohol was to set myself apart as a Christian.  What i now realized was that though it is good to be blameless, it is bad to use it to build a division between myself and someone.

I picked up two Coronas and walked over to my coworker.  I said something like, “I’m not sure how I’ve messed up things between us so badly.  But I’d like to make it right.  I’m really sorry.” I handed him the beer.

He looked down at the beer in my hand.  He looked confused for a moment and then got pulled away by someone before he could say more. 

Eventually he turned back to me and said, “I thought you weren’t drinking.”

I said, “It’s worth it.  I’d like to share a drink with you.” I held up my beer and we clinked bottles.  Again he got pulled away by someone (it was quite a party) and I started to walk away.  I hoped he got the message.  Had i done the right thing?  What will people think when they see me with this beer? 

suddenly someone saw me with that beer.  This person’s eyes lit up and he yelled over to the coworker I had offended, “Ha! I told you he’d crack! You owe me $100.”  My coworker had bet that I would stay true to my commitment to not drink.

I dropped my head.  I could seem to do no right by this coworker. 

but a few minutes later, my coworker turned to me and said.  “I really appreciate what you did.  Thank you for doing that.”  He looked at me and nodded.  It seemed, by his face, that the loss of $100 wasn’t even a consideration.

I doubt that my vow NOT to drink had as strong of an effect, as did braking my vow to mend this relationship.  I like how God humbles my petty actions and resolutions to make way for his greater story.

China 2: attacks in the night

Already on the first day I found myself at the first factory and I had already messed up.  I had forgotten my computer.  I looked at my watch.  I had slept in and had gotten up an hour after we were supposed to leave.  I didn’t even have the right dress clothes on.  And on top of that my boss was making fun of me in a more personal and severe way than he ever had before. 

That’s just not in his character.  i suppose he’s capable but. . . this can’t be real. 

I forced myself to wake up.  My alarm clock said it was way past when i was supposed to get up!  I Had slept in! I rushed around, put myself together, and headed out.  I hadn’t gotten to practice chinese like I had wanted.  I barely had time to get dressed correctly.  This time as we got out of the SUV and started to walk to the factory, i realized i had left my backpack with my computer in the SUV.  I went backand found my backpack but it didn’t have anything in it.  This can’t be mine.  I put it in the back seat and found my backpack.  I was relieved.  But as I opened it, this one didn’t have my computer either.  i looked at the other backpack.  It had changed its colors as if it were trying to prove to me that it wasn’t at fault.  That, it hadn’t tricked me. This can’t be real. 

I opened my eyes finally and it was daytime.  I’m not sure what time it was but I had a visitor at my hotel room door.  totally unexpected!  It was an old friend that had somehow found me.  He came in and we started to catch up.  I got out of bed and went over to large panaramic window.  My friend was a big guy.  Really nice guy, usually, but he had a strange look in his eye.  He was getting closer to me and I was getting scared.  We were in a strange hotel room and he could do anything to me if he overpowered me.  I reached out for his hand.  He grabbed mine.  I twisted it and forced him to the ground with a little bit of trouble.  I stepped over him and we laughed it off like the old wrestling days in highschool. 

I was across the room when he said, ‘hey’.  I looked over and he had a pop can in his hand.  It was open.  He threw it over to me and I caught it without spilling.  I looked at him and said, “woah did you see that?”

Then something started moving in the can- a heaviness scratching around inside.  Syrupy brown fizz started filling up and overflowing the can.  “What is this?” I said calmly.  My friend had gotten up and was looking at me with a sly smile. 

little black, sharp footed locusts started to pour out of the can and I dropped it and watched them spread out over the floor, on the carpet and into the bathroom.  I looked at my ‘friend’ and said, “Now I know you’re not real.” 

The true urgency reached my body.  My eyes were really heavy but i forced them open.  My limbs were almost weighed down but i forced my arm up and I rolled over.  I could hear the china men in the room next to me talking and I could smell the cigarette smoke somehow seeping into my room.  i turned on the light on the nightstand and saw that it was 1:45.  It was still dark outside from this skyrise hotel looking out into the Chinese city.  I saw my bible there next to my ipod.  I reached for it and began to read in Luke where i had left off last night.  I turned on my ipod which was queued up to play Third Day. 

I read where the servant of an important centurion was sick.  The people said this centurion is a man that does great work for this city and the temple.  He deserves for you to heal his servant.  The centurion told Jesus, I understand that you can say something and it will be done for you because I can tell the people under me and they will do it for me.  Just say the world and you can heal my servant.  jesus did and was amazed by this man’s faith. 

I don’t know if i have ever tried to wake from a dream and had to try three times to really escape it.  I don’t know but perhaps this was an attack.  I prayed and read and I am not worried.  I have dedicated this hotel room to God and whatever it was that was there with me, was trespassing on holy ground.  I am not scared.  I am a faithful servant of God, and i can do great work here for his kingdom.  God, just say the word.  Heal me.  Protect me.  I have faith.

China 1: arriving

I went to China about 5 years ago to help rebuild an english school.  We worked with mortar and bricks to build a wall in a kitchen.  We called it a missions trip.

But i think this trip, with business, has the potential to be much more of a mission. 

I just arrived in China.  I will be here for three weeks with my boss, my boss’ boss, and the owner of the company, along with my company’s whole team that lives in China. 

My other coworkers have talked about these trips.  They work you 16-18 hours a day.  There are stories of some people seeking out lesbian prostitutes because they can do it here.  Many people get seemingly innocent massages but then are heavily pressured to pay for a “happy ending.”  Stories of drunken nights, lost in the city.  It is a foreign country that will saturate you in every desire for just a pinch of american money.  The temptations are available and cheap.  What happens in China, stays in China. 

I have recruited a team to pray for me every day while I am here.  Cliff, Kurt, Chris, my two brothers, and my Dad.  I have dedicated this month to be a living sacrifice for my God.  I want stay entirely pure for this trip.  I want to be the least tainted by sexual acts, but still be the most fulfilled.  I want to work the hardest, and still do the best work and keep a clear, powerful mind.  I want to savor the local dishes, and have my stomach be guarded.  I want to abstain from all alcohol and yet be the life of the party.  I am an ambassodor for God.  Such a high standard to meet and I will do my best but Lord, I need you with me.  You see that i have dedicated this hotel room, that i am sitting in right now, to you.  This is a holy place.  And i will find refuge here because I will be alone with you each night. 

I can already feel the temptations scratching at my vulnerably human surface.  A large playboy bunny cutout stands by the door to the strip club in our hotel (no it’s not an easter bunny).  Our taxi driver told us where to go to find girls and everything else we want to buy.  I feel a twinge in my stomach that has come and go since I ordered this strange spinach and chicken an hour ago. 

So far I am not being who I had hoped i would be.  My boss is already belaboring over instructions because I didn’t understand them the first time.  I seem to be constantly looking for my wallet, passport, and room key.  I felt like the downer as we walked through town to dinner. 

God, I know your plan is different than mine, but I will do my best to be a noble representative of your kingdom for them to see.  I want them to see something different in me and turn to you because of it.  Lord, I belive you not only save us but you transform us.  Be with me now.  Be the light that shines through this broken, vulnerable body.  Make them see someone who is wise, and loving, and non-judgmental and someone who is abstaining from impurity and because of it, lving more abundantly.  May the see you.  I claim these things in your name, Jesus Christ.  Amen. 

Please pray for me.  That I will point people’s eyes to heaven for this whole month.  Xie Xie (thank you)

Breathe acts: little coffee blessings

We had such a good time giving the money at the coffee shop last time that i decided to do it again.  This time I asked one of the most promising kids in the youth group, Dalton, to help out.  He said he had been wanting to do the same thing for a while.  He brought two friends and the four of us drove down to the Christian coffee shop in Wichita. 

Dalton and I wrote a note that said something like, ‘don’t tell anybody who did this but use this money to pay for as many people behind us until it runs out. If anybody asks who to thank, tell them to just pass on the blessing.’

We got there and i tried to give the note and the money to Dalton but he wanted me to do it.  We stood in line.  The middle-aged woman at the cash register was new and was fumbling with the most basic transactions.  Dalton turned to me and said, “maybe we should give it to the other girl or a manager or something.”  I watched her for a moment and replied, “I think . . . um, I think it will be ok.”

As I got up to the front, our two other friends stood unassumingly behind me so that the other people in line could not see or hear what was going on.  I handed the note to the woman.  She read it without changing her expression and said, “ok.” 

I set the pile of 20’s on the counter and she took it.  She looked up at me and very briefly smiled.  I ordered a coffee and a panini for my dinner.  we all sat down and waited.

When my panini was ready I went up to get it and the middle-aged woman handed it to me and said,  “That was amazing.”  i smiled and said, “Thanks.  This is the turkey?”  she nodded.  I saw down with the others.  

None of us had a very good view of how the people reacted.  But I felt like there were no significantly changed consumers.  Dalton said he heard one man’s response.  The man had said, “Um.  Ok.  Thanks.”  and waited for his coffee i guess. 

I felt like my experience here at the Christian coffee shop was less productive than the Starbucks i had gone to before.  Did people expect more at a Christian coffee shop?  they assume a Christians or Christian coffee shops should buy them coffee.  Does the world expect more out of Christians?  I would guess so.  That makes our job harder.  But that’s ok.  God has given us creativity and blessings and talents and ways to find new methods or reaching them.  Time to step up our game, Christians.  Live radically.  Be ready to sacrifice.

Breathe acts: secret hundred

I still had the $602 that I had been given.  I was looking for ways to help people with it.

I found  my pastor on Wenesday and said, “Can you make sure this gets to the Petersons, please- they need it.”  I handed him a stack of 20s adding up to $100.  “I’d give it to them myself but I don’t want them to think of me whenever they need a bailout.  I’d rather just stay their friend.  The pastor nodded and asked, “Randy and Sarah Peterson? Yes I will make sure they get it.” 

I was praying with Randy and Sarah this week (we try to do 10 minutes of morning prayer several times a week) and Randy asked me, “Did you give Pastor Tim $100 to give to us?”

I replied, “Someone gave you $100?  Wow!  That’s cool.”

“Yeah, you’re the only one that we’ve told about our money situation.  You and Sarah’s sister, but we just want to be able to thank the person.”

“Wow, cool.” I said.  “Maybe they just thought you needed it.  Well it seems like the giver must be getting enough satisfaction by giving it that they don’t need to tell you who they are.  I’d say just pass on the blessing somehow to other people.”

The giver did get enough satisfaction by just giving it, but there was even more satisfaction in hearing their baffled gatitude.

Breathe acts: gas card

“let your light shine among men so they may see your good deeds and praise your father in heaven for it. Matt 5:16″ Be inspired by these modern day “acts” and go and shine!

I met a boy named Carlton a couple weeks ago. he showed up at my house with some of the kids from the youth group i help at. His friend had just died in a car accident and he had a lot of digesting to do. He poured out his troubles of fighting with his dad, losing girlfriends and dyre financial debts. He had just gotten a new job but he hadn’t paid his insurance and didn’t have gas money to get to work.

I offered my extra mattress to him if he needed a place to stay that night. He did and we talked late into the night until he finally talked himself to sleep.

Later I rallied some of the kids from the youth group to get some money together to buy him a gas card. I thought that was the best, safest way to supply for him. His most important need, was to be able to get to work.  then he would be able to pull himself out of many of the other problems he was having.  We accrued $130 and bought him a gas card.

(more to come on Carlton)

Breathe acts: money multiplies

“…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

Breathe is a Wichita group yearning to bring ourselvs and others closer to God.  Please be inspired by these modern day “Acts” and lets go out and live our faith today!

This is the story of one of the members in Breathe:

“I designate a certain percentage of my paycheck to go toward charities.  I had not done my budget for quite a while and so i had a lot of money to give. 

One of the girls in the youth group i help out at was in a car accident in which her friend died.  I heard one of the prayer requests last sunday was that they didn’t know how they were going to get around because their other car was in the shop. 

Later that day I took a check for $602 to the older daughter in the family and said to use it to get a car up and going so their dad could go to work.  I told her that i trusted her to cash the check and give it to her parents and to not say who had given it to her.  And then i left.

A few days later I asked her if it got put to good use.  She told me that she just gave it to her parents because she didn’t have a checking account, but that there wasn’t a problem.  They could still get the money, she said.

A few days after that i went to a high school choir performance and stood at the back because I couldn’t stay long.  At a short intermission a man came up to me and asked me to step outside.  I told him he looked familiar but couldn’t place from where.  We walked into the hall, he opened his arms and said, ‘give me a hug.’ 

I smiled and then it dawned on me.  It was the girls’ father.  He wrapped me in a big bear hug and said, “thank you for the offer.” 

I said, “Will it get put to good use?  Is your car up and going?”

He replied.  “We won’t need it.  The insurance covered it all.”

So now, again I have $602 to give away, plus this month’s percentage added on top.  I think of all the possibilities.  I could buy somebody’s groceries again. i could take a homeless man out to a lavish meal.  I could buy coffee for everybody behind me at Starbucks again. 

He calls some of us to to sell all we have and give it to the poor and follow him.  If this is giving all I have to the poor, I had no idea it could be so much fun.”

 

This blog will hopefully record His giving adventures!

Breathe Acts: tip the greeter

“…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

Breathe is a Wichita group yearning to bring ourselvs and others closer to God.  Please be inspired by these modern day “Acts” and lets go out and live our faith today!

this is the story told by one of the members of Breathe:

 

“I was in Atlanta for work and I went to a Wednesday night church service with my friend, Unree.  Unree’s church is HUGE!  Unree is black and his WHOLE church is black.  I’m about as pasty blonde white as a guy can be.  But as we walked out, i told Unree, ”this culture seems so kind and welcoming.  I’ve never lived in a place that was very diverse before!”

I had dropped 20$ in the offering plate, but after we got into our separate cars and were waiting for the traffic of the parking lot to clear out, Unree jumped out of his car and came over to my window. 

“I feel like God wants me to give this to you.”  and he handed me a 20!
“Haha! Really?  Are you sure?”
“Yeah.  I’m sure.  I want you to have it.”
“Well, thanks.  I’ll try to use it to bless somebody else.  Thanks brother!”
Unree ran back to his car and we’re on the highway 10 minutes later. 

My phone rang.  It was Unree.
“What’s up, Unree?”
“Hey have you gotten anything to eat yet?”
“I have some stuff back at the hotel but if you want to hang out some more, we totally should.”
“Yeah, we could just eat and have some more fellowship before you have to head back tomorrow.”

We went to a Chili’s and were seated by a really nice young black lady.  I noticed, again, that I was surrounded by black people.  They were laughing and smiling and enjoying their dinner.  I felt SOO comfortable there.  Almost like i was one of them. 

“Dude, Unree.  I was thinking.  What if we use the $20 you gave me, and I’ll match it with another $20 and we can give it to our waiter to totally bless him.”
“Cool. that sounds like a good idea.”
We had a great time of sharing about our families and dreams and working at the same company.  But. . . near the end of our meal the waiter just didn’t seem like he was the right one for the money.

“What about the girl who greeted us?”
“Yeah, that seems better.  For some reason she seems like the person it should go to.”

I gave the money to Unree and as we walked out I was totally expecting him to talk to the pretty young greeter.  But instead of giving her the money he asked, “Where was the young woman who was working here an hour ago?”

I was shocked.  I thought it was the same girl!  they both looked like pretty young black women.  It’s a good thing i wasn’t giving out the money.

So when the other greeter came out Unree said to her, “We felt like we were supposed to give you this money.” He handed the $40 to her and continued, “We just felt that God wanted us to give it to you to hopefully bless you.”
She was flattered.  “Thank you so much!  What are your names? Are you both from here?”

We talked a little bit and Unree closed with this, “I go to Change The World church if you ever want to go.  It’s just up the road.”
“Yeah, Ok.  Maybe I’ll see you there!” she replied.  “thank you very much!”

And we split.  Happy.”

 

This was the story told by one of the members of breathe.

Breathe acts:road trip

“…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

BREATHE is a Wichita group yearning to bring ourselves and others closer to God.  Please be inspired by these modern day “Acts” and lets go out and live our faith today!!! We’d love to hear your stories!

this is the story of one of the members of Breathe:

 

“We stopped for gas in an area of town with drug dealers and prostitutes on every corner. I was with a coworker on a business trip.  He was filling the car and I was standing outside next to him.  A Short, tan-skinned man in a faded ball cap and dried snot from his nose to his mouth approached. 

“Hey man, could you spare some money?”
My heart was beating, i was suddenly being engaged by this dangerous world that was usually on the other side of the car window. 
“I will buy you food but I won’t give you money.”
Without a beat of an eyelash he accepted.  We walked over to the Mcdonalds. 
“What’s your name?” I asked.
“Donald.”
“Nice to meet you.  I’m Ross.”  He looked at me, smiled and nodded.  He told me he was a roofer and that his boss had not called him for work in a couple weeks.  I bought him super value meal #2 and asked him, “Are you good, man?”
“Yeah, I got my hamburger comin, and my fries.  Yeah, I’m good.  Thanks, man.”
“Alright.  God bless you, Donald.”

I hustled over to my coworker, who was waiting in the parking lot with the doors locked.  I hopped in.  I said, “Let me in, I’m not a bad guy.”
He opened the door and said, “Ross, you’re a pretty good guy.”

If you are hungry, i want to feed you.  But who knows, maybe that wasn’t for the physically hungry man, perhaps it was for the spiritually hungry- those who watched me do it.

God, use me!”

 

this is the story told by one of the members of Breathe.

God’s wrestling team

blameless army
for a mythical king
They look to us
to see if it’s the real thing

When my high school wrestling team walked into a tournament, people stopped what they were doing.  We were killers.  We were the best team in the whole state- we had doubled the score of the second place team at the state tourney my junior year, and were prophecied to massacre even more my senior year.  We were giants among men. We were more than a group of high school boys.  We represented a legend. 

When we traveled to a tournament, we wore ties and slacks.  We couldn’t smoke and we had to make good grades.  We picked up trash from the sidewalks on which we walked.  We protected the weak and the harrassed. It was our duty.  We represented something bigger and people were watching us.  People were looking for our achilles heel.  They wanted to see our weakness and prove we were fallible.  Wanted to prove to themselves that they could beat us and that our kingdom was still mortal. 

People stop when they see us with a Bible, or see us bow our heads before a meal.  And they begin to watch us, looking for our weakness.  They can’t wait to see us lie, or backbite, or cuss just to prove to themselves that they were right, our kingdom is just a myth. 

Though we are not perfect, we are held to a higher standard because we march for someone who is perfect.  Our captain has defeated all the powers of evil in the world, and all eyes are looking at his army asking themselves, is their myth true?  That is why I think Christ’s followers are called to a higher standard in everything we do.  We must strive to be blameless.  We must live life with the most vigor!  We must love the poor better than others.  We must be the first to help fix a flat tire.  We must do our best to hone our witts, and train our intelligence for the tests of words.  We must fix our worth in God so that no one can break us on our insecurities.  We must be the most refined gentlemen and women but must be the first to put ourselves in harm’s way to protect the innocent.  We represent a king that claims he can save the world.  And it is the world that looks at our lives for evidence, to see if it is true that they too can really be saved.

Breathe Acts: Jezebel’s

“…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” (Matthew 5:16.)  

Breathe is a Wichita group yearning to bring ourselves and others closer to God.  Please be inspired by these modern day “Acts” and lets go out and live our faith today!

 
 
 

 

Cliff had the idea to go to a strip club and hang out in the parking lot and just see if God could use us.  This is what happened one Saturday night.

A large black guy walked up to our lawn chairs in the grass and said, “Hey what are you guys doing over here?  I moved from Florida and I seen you guys over here in lawn chairs all kicked back like your on the beach and I says to myself, ‘now those birds look like they’s on the beach- I gotta talk to them.’”

Cliff offered a water.  I offered prayer for anyone he knew might need one.  The man declined both but was amused and walked away with a smile on his face. 

After another half an hour Cliff and I decided that man may have been the reason they were supposed to come tonight.  We packed up the chairs and the water and the guitar and walked back to the car.  We had parked away from the other cars, except for a single truck.  And now a boy leaned against the truck, door open, smoking a cigarette. 

“Hey man, would you like a water?” Cliff asked.
“Um, sure. Thanks.  What are you guys doing here?”

“We’re just here to help anybody who needs it and to pray for people if they would like.” i said.  ”Is there anything we could pray for for you?”
The guy reached out and received the water, “Yeah, in fact my sister has a blood clot in her brain.”
“Jeez, that sucks man.  I’m sorry.” I said.
“I know, she’s not doing very well.”
“What’s your name, man?” Cliff asked.
“Ryan.” He reached out to take Cliff’s hand.  “Nice to meet you.”
“I’m Cliff and this is Ross.” I shook his hand.  “What are you doing tonight?”
“I’m waiting out here for a girl to call.  I just got out of a horrendous divorce and I’ve been incredibly depressed lately and I’m waiting for a phone call from a girl I knew in High school, who I haven’t seen for ages.” 
“Wow.  Is there anything we can pray about for that situation?”
“Nah, no worries.  Mostly just for my sister.”
“Ok, that’s cool.  Are you comfortable if we just pray right here?” Cliff asked.
“Yeah, I grew up my whole life in the church and stuff.  We should totally pray.”
 

 

Cliff and I put our hands on Ryan’s shoulders and Cliff began to pray.  A drunk Mexican man stumbled towards us.  I began praying. In the middle of my prayer The drunk man leaned against Ryan’s hood and began to pee. 

He called to us, “Hey.  Aaaarrre you guys praying? What are you praying fooouuuuur?”

I stopped praying to answer as patiently as i could, “Yes we’re praying, you can listen if you want but we are going to continue.”

But he did not let us continue.  “You guys don’t realize how purposeless praying is.  How purposeless trying to find God is.”  He zipped up his pants and stumbled up to us.  “I’m 38 years old and been through so much more than you can imagine.  Do you see that Suburban over there?”

There was a shiny white new suburban facing them. 

“That car is stolen.” He caught himself from falling over, “I brought my kids here for their birthday in a stolen car because I have no money.  I work 7 days a week as a welder and still can’t make enough money to keep our lights on.  Our electricity was cut off 8 days ago.  Seven days ago I tried to commit suicide.”

I leaned in close and put my hand on his shoulder, “Hey man there’s hope out there.  You don’t have to give up!”  I probably should have been more careful.  He could have stabbed me or something.  

The man smiled a sad smile, “you don’t understand.  I’ve killed more people than you know.  What’s your name?”
“I’m Ross. What’s yours?”
“I’m Jose. But what I was saying was that there’s no hope.  If you ever think you’re down, don’t because there’s always someone lower.  It’s me.  I’m as low as you can go.  Life for some people is just not worth living.”
“No, Jose.  There’s always hope.” I inserted. “What about your kids, man? What will that do to them if you aren’t around anymore?”
“They would have a better life.” Jose leaned against the car door and almost fell over when it began to close.  He regained his shaky balance and continued. You guys are so naïve.”

The conversation went on for a while but it seemed that nothing we could say could convince Jose to change his thinking or his intent to try to commit suicide again. 

Then Ryan spoke up.  “Hey, I don’t know if this would help at all but I think you should know that my dad committed suicide and partly because of that I have tried it also 15 or 20 times since then.”

Jose shook his head and began talking again.  “No, there’s no reason they would need me. You are so naïve.” We tried to tell him that God has a plan, and that there is always hope.  But an extremely drunk man does not respond very well.  He began to walk through us towards his suburban.  His kids were coming out and coming to the suburban.  
I reached up and put my hand on his shoulder as Jose walked away and I prayed under my breath, “Jesus help us.  Help Jose.” 

Jose shook his head and mumbled something about how naïve we were as he walked away.
Cliff, Ryan and I looked at each other.  “Wow,”  we all said. 
“Thank you for telling him that, Ryan.” Cliff said. “I just hope he really heard it.”

I left that night thinking, “I don’t know if anything that happened helped Jose or Ryan, but it seemed like we were there to bring them together so they would hear each others’ stories.  Maybe Jose needed to know how important it was to his sons that he didn’t commit suicide.  Maybe Ryan needed to realize that Maybe why his dad committed suicide was because he just was trying so hard to support his son and it was too hard thinking that he had let his son down.”

Whatever was the outcome in the hearts of the people involved, we were convinced that we had been where God had wanted us to be that night. 

Breathe Acts: hotel

“…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” (Matthew 5:16.) 

Breathe is a Wichita group yearning to bring ourselves and others closer to God.  Please be inspired by these modern day “Acts” and lets go out and live our faith today!

 

 

As I pulled into a gas station I saw a large, red-faced man bundled up in lots of hoods and sweaters, sitting on a large bundle of random things next to the door of the gas station. I stuck the nozzle in my gas tank and got it started. 

 

Then I walked over to him. “Are you hungry?  Would you like to get dinner with me?”

The man gestured confusedly with his arms and mumbled a little bit and shook his head. 

“Well is there anything that you need that I could get for you?”

“I just am looking for a place to sleep.”

“You don’t have a place to sleep?”

“I think I will just go over there behind the building.”  He gestured and looked towards the side of the building.

“Well, would you like for me to get a hotel for you tonight?”

“Uh. . .”  he stuttered, “Um, the Days Inn over there is already full.” He pointed next door.

“Ok. Are there any others around here?”

“Um, I don’t know.”  He seemed discouraged and a little bit confused.  I should have slowed down my talking.  I should have been more patient. 

“Hmmm.  Are you sure you don’t want something to eat or something?”

He nodded.  “I already ate.”

“Alright. Well I’ll probably go check around.  I might be back.”  I drove to the Days Inn next door.

 

I walked in and said, “Do you have any rooms open? And how much are they?”

“Um, yeah.  They’ll be $59.99.  Smoking or non?”

“Oh, it’s not for me, but I don’t think he’s picky.”

The man gave me a blank look.

“It’s for this guy I met over there in front of the gas station.  It seems like he needs a place to stay.”

“Oh, Patrick?  No. We can’t have him stay here.  He’s been causing problems- No, sorry.”

“Oh, I don’t know what his name is.” I said, “Big guy- looks like he’s been traveling for a while.”

The clerk said, “Big bag thing that he carries around?”

“Uh, I don’t know.”

“Yeah, if it’s Patrick, we can’t let him in. We’re full for him.  That’s just what I was told.”

“hmmm.” I paused, lamenting the situation a little bit, “are there any other places nearby?”

“Yeah try the Holiday inn, they’re about the same price.  Or the comfort Inn but it’s more expensive.  But I think everything else is pretty much full around here tonight.”

“Ok, thanks.” I smiled and left.

I looked down the highway and couldn’t think of the Holiday inn or where it was.  I think I know where the comfort in is.  Plus, like the good Samaritan, I want to give this man the best that I can afford. 

 

“Hey you wanna hop in and we’ll go find a place for you to stay tonight?” I said through my rolled down window over to Patrick. He had just lit up his pipe. 

He didn’t say anything for a moment, as if processing and then nodded and started to get up. 

“But you can’t smoke in my car. Sorry, man.”

He wheezed and struggled to get up, pick up his humungous bundle (about 1/3 the size of a VW beetle) of stuff and i helped him jam it into my back seat.  It BARELY fit- with some convincing.  He emptied his pipe on the ground.  Then he tried to fit himself into my car.  HE barely fit.  It was a ten second struggle for him to shove himself into the seat.  Once he was in, it was like this car had been made for someone exactly his size to get in.  No one bigger would have fit without straining or ripping something. 

 

We drove across the highway towards the Comfort inn sign. 

“So what’s your name?”

“Patrick.”

“Nice to meet you.  I’m Ross.  So what’s your story? You live around here?”

“I’m on my way to El Dorado.”

“what do you have going on over there?”

“Just wander around.  See what’s going on over there.  Life.”

“Cool.  Sounds fun.”

There was a bit of silence. 

 

We pulled into the Comfort Inn.  And I said, “I guess. . . should I just go and check out to see if they have rooms open?”

He nodded.  I started to get out and he said, “could you leave the radio on?”

I calculated in my head for a moment and then said, “Actually, I probably shouldn’t.  I’d have to leave the keys in the car and I don’t really know you yet.”  I laughed.  “Sorry man.”  I punched him lightly on his big sweatshirted arm and he nodded and smiled, reluctant but understanding. 

 

I remembered this hotel from when I had come out to interview for the job I work at. They had put me up in a really nice room with a Jacuzzi bath in it.  My girlfriend had stayed there with me, and that beautiful big Jacuzzi in our room made it very difficult to behave- but we did for the most part.

 

“Hi there,” i said to the young woman sitting behind the counter. 

“Hi”

“Do you have any rooms available?”

“Yep.  Smoking or non?”

“I don’t think he’s picky.  It’s a guy I found outside of the gas station out there.  It looks like he could use a room.  Ooh, I wonder if he’d like the Jacuzzi room.  How much is that one?”

She checked her computer and said, “$121.99”

Woah, how much is a normal room.

She checked her computer, “79.99”

“Ok, I’ll go out and get him.”

I went out to get him.  I wondered, is he the type of man to bathe?  The last homeless man I picked up said that people on the road just get to a sort of equilibrium with the dirt and stink on their bodies and prefer not to mess that up sometimes.  Patrick smelled a little bit like urine.  I wondered if maybe the other hotel didn’t want him getting urine stink on their beds.  I opened his door.  He started the long process of getting out as I started to maneuver his bundle of stuff out of the back seat.  “They have rooms,” I said. 

“I smoke.” He said.

“Ok.”

“but not in your car,” he blurted as if he was scared I would take it the wrong way. 

“Yeah, it’s ok. They have smoking rooms.” We kept walking.  “Are you the type of guy to take a bath?”

He didn’t know how to answer.  We walked inside and he set his load down and went and sat in the sofas. 

            “The reason I ask about a bath is because this hotel has a great room with jacuzzi in the room and I thought you might want to wash up.” 

            “What’s a Jacuzzi?” he asked.

            “It’s like a bath with jets and stuff.” I swirled around my hands. 

            The lady behind the counter chimed in, “It’s a whirlpool bath.”

            It registered and he shook his head. 

            “Ok, lets just do a smoking room without the Jacuzzi.” I told the girl, “Thanks.”

            She got the paperwork done and handed us the key card.  “Breakfast goes from 6:30 until 9:30.”

            I offered to help pick up his bundle but he declined. He reached down and tugged upward on it to put it over his shoulders, but the strap (made out of a nylon gunny sack I think) broke.  He grunted his annoyance and bent over and retied it.  He then heaved it onto his shoulders again and we started down the hallway towards his room.  He lumbered under the big weight and wheezed. 

            “So you’re just going to El Dorado to look around? Do you have any friends or family over there?”

            “Nope.”

            “Just going to see what’s out there?”

            “yep, just to explore a little.”

            “Very cool.  I like the way you think.  Oh, here’s your room.”

            We opened the room and he inched his way through the doorway, squashing his humungous load through the doorway. 

I left my telephone number and email on a piece of paper.  And said , “here is my telephone number so you have a friend in Wichita.  And do you use email?”

“what’s that?”

“Email?  It’s the way to write letters on the internet.  I guess maybe you don’t know about it.  But at least you have my phone number.  Alright I’ll get out of your hair and let you get some sleep.  It was nice to meet you.”

            He reached out his hand but didn’t squeeze mine back, as if the gesture of holding his hand out in front of him was all that was socially required of him without having to engage his fingers in any way.  “Thank you.  Thank You.” He said

 

I left.  As I waked by the lady behind the counter she said, “that was a very nice thing you did.” I smiled and kept walking. 

“I lowered the price a bit for you too.  I took ten dollars off.” 

“Really?” I stopped, ”Thank you very much.”

“Here’s my name and here’s my phone number if you need anything.” She handed me a little post it note.

I said, “Great, thanks!  If there are any problems in the room or anything, it will just be charged to my card, right?

“the card doesn’t actually run until morning, so yeah it will. 

“Great.”  I smiled at her.  “Thank you.”

I left and went to get my dinner.  I wondered if the reason I was supposed to do this was because of her maybe.  Maybe she was to see that and be changed. 

 

The next day I was leaving from work and went down the road by the gas station.  As I waited at the stoplight I noticed Patrick trekking across the other side of the intersection with his large bundle, heading back to the area of the gas station where I had found him. 

 

I don’t know what his true story was.  I don’t know if he lied to me at all.  I don’t know why he was not welcome at the first hotel.  I do feel like I was a little bit too business-like about it.  I didn’t have the time to sit and talk to him about life, but I could have been more compassionate in my tone.  Should I have let him smoke in my car?  Did he even want a room?  Was it a waste of my money that could have been spent in a more productive generous way?  I kind of wonder why he didn’t know what a Jacuzzi was.  He didn’t know what email was.  Maybe he had difficulties in his mind.  Or, would an angel, new on this world maybe not know what these things are? 

 

Well it probably wasn’t an angel that I helped that night.  But, if we are Christians, we believe that I helped Jesus himself.  What we do for the least of the people in this world, we have done for him, as imperfect an act as it was.

 

I’m afraid of becoming the type of Christian that talks about the good things that Christians do, but doesn’t realize I’m not even doing those things.  Some people have money to buy hotel rooms.  Some people have time and compassion for listening.  Some people don’t have either, but they have time to pray for people as they go to work in their car.  Whatever the case, I am glad that we have once again helped someone this week, and have kept the momentum going until the next opportunity comes again. 

Breathe Acts: groceries

“…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” (Matthew 5:16.) 

Breathe is a Wichita group yearning to bring ourselves and others closer to God.  Please be inspired by these modern day “Acts” and lets go out and live our faith today!

 

I didn’t know exactly why I was in the grocery store.  I was hungry but I felt like I might be called to do God’s will in this store.  I wandered around, got some food and went to the registers.  Everybody was going through the self checkout but I thought maybe I was meant to talk to a cashier or something. I got in line behind a jovial black lady with lots of groceries.  She was having fun talking to the cashier.  I watched him scanning her stuff and the total going up.  Just before the last couple items were scanned and the total was at $133 I leaned in and said, “This will be a weird question but may I pay for your groceries for you?”

Without hesitation she exclaimed, “YES YOU MAY!”

I pulled out my debit card and looked for where to swipe it.

The woman exclaimed,“Are you serious?”

I nodded.  Both the cashier and the woman were staring at me waiting for something, or just in shock.  I broke the silence by saying, “I was just with some friends and they encouraged me to do something nice for some body.”

She reached out and hugged me.  “Thank you very much.”

“Pass on the love to the next person,” I said. 

“Ok, I will.”  She nodded and put away her check book. 

I swiped the card and paid the $144

She left.  The guy behind me said, “It’s good to know there are some good people still in the world.”

“Good.  Thanks.  Just pass it on, man.” 

I looked at the cashier.  “oops,” I said.  I guess I should have just put my items under that swipe too.”

“No problem we can just do it again.” he said.

He rang me up and then said, “I’m sorry I can’t move because my foot has gout.”
”Ok, I can bag my own groceries.  Would you like me to pray for your foot?  I know it could be kind of awkward, but I’d still like to do it if you want to.”

“No, that’s alright.”

“Are you sure?”

“Yes, no thank you.”

“Ok.  Well, thank you again.”

I gathered up my un-bagged snacks and left.

That was a lot of money.  If i did that every day, i would lose all my wealth.  But some people are called to give their wealth away to the poor.  I’ve heard of people doing that.  And they seem to end up happier in the end.  If that is what this is, and if every week, even, we find new ways to give lavishly to people, what fun it is going to be to give it all away to the poor.

Breathe Acts: Starbucks

“…let your light shine before men, that they may see your good deeds and praise your Father in Heaven.” (Matthew 5:16.) 

Breathe is a Wichita group yearning to bring ourselves and others closer to God.  Please be inspired by these modern day “Acts” and lets go out and live our faith today!

I ordered a Naked juice and handed the barrista a stack of $20 bills wrapped in a piece of paper.  The paper said,

 

“(quiet) Please use this $100 to buy people’s coffee/snacks until it runs out. 

 

Do not tell anybody who or why this money was given.  Thanks!  Shshhhh!!!”

 

On the way to this starbucks, having the money and note in my pocket, Cliff called.  Whle we prayed for it I realized that I was too excited for the wrong reasons.  After the call I turned my will to God and he said, “liquify your money.  Make it ready for me to use in any way, despite what you have planned for it.”  So I resolved that if something jumped out at me before I handed over the money, I would be flexible and spend accordingly. 

 

But the money, liquid in my mind was intact when I gave it to the barrista.  She looked down, read the note and nodded and I started to walk away with my Naked Protein Smoothie.  She caught me and asked, “do you want your change?”

 

I smiled at her, finding myself saying “NO, Duh!” with my eyes.  But I caught myself and smiled to cover my defensive nervousness. She nodded again and I sat down and opened my computer to write and pray.

 

I saw a big black guy coming towards my seat from the corner of my eye.  He stopped directly in front of my table, looking down at me.  I looked up at him.  It was not a big black guy!  It was MITCH in a black shirt!  “Dude, Mitch!  How are ya?!” 

            He shook my hand and we exchanged a knowing glance. 

            “I called Cliff and he told me about what you were doing.  This is awesome.  Sorry but I can’t stay long.”

            “Did you get a coffee?”

            “No, I probably should, shoudn’t I?”

 

            He came back with his coffee and said, “she just said that some guy gave a hundred dollars to be used for people’s coffee.”

            We talked and prayed for each other.  “…amen.”

            “Wait!” I said.  Cliff and I have found that after spiritual highs we usually fall down hard.  So we prayed for a fortress around us to deflect temptations and sin and keep this momentum going forward.  We shook hands, smiled that knowing smile and he left. 

 

The barrista came over to me and leaned down.  I looked up at her and then she said, “You’ve made a lot of customers happy tonight.  They want to know his name and I say he wants to remain anonymous.”

 

A couple of girls sat down at a table 5 tiles away and I heard them laughing.  “Haha!  That’s cool!  I want to go up there again and ask if I can get more!” one of them half joked.

 

Half an hour later the barrista came over to me again and leaned down, smiling.  “Some of them don’t know what to do.  One lady bought a pound of coffee and—well now there’s only like 11 dollars left, but–  They want to know who it is so they can go give him a hug!”

            I stuttered for a moment and then said, “Tell them to pass it on to someone else.”

            “Ok.  Um. . .” now she stuttered, “Why are you doing this?  Do you have some purpose behind it or something?”

            I shook my head, “No. . . um.  Just. . . me and a couple friends wanted to do it.”

 

People are laughing all around me.  the group of barristas behind the register are throwing their heads back, laughing at something and patting each other on the back.  The people at the front of the line all have a moment of bewilderment, and then look around, smiling.  Always smiling. 

 

‘Liquify your hearts,’ I think God wants to say.  “Be ready for the movement I want to make with them.  Be flexible and listen to me.  I will use you at the front lines of of my battle to give life to old hearts.  I will bring you living water.  I will make you smile.  I will make your smile contagious, i will quench your thirst.

patent search yourself

Gregory James was uncommonly strange
but somehow they knew, it should be no other way
He compared himself not to other men we see 
but instead to the man he knew he could be

The people at Gregory James’ funeral didn’t know each other but as they told stories about him they knew it had to be the same guy.  He owned no TV because, he said, it would distract him from what really mattered.  He tipped 50% at restaraunts and he usually knew the life story of his server before he left.  He ate ramen and PBJs when he could so he’d have more money to give away in different ways.  He wrote prayer poems to recite for each of his friends every day.  He took chalk with him wherever he went so that he could write encouraging messages on sidewalks.  He took a year off to shadow 20 people at different jobs- because he wanted to make sure he didn’t miss his calling.  He would not fire his employees when there was no work.  He wrote an autobiography before he died but it was just about the lives of the people that had been in his life!  It seemed everyone knew this uncommon man, and no one knew another person like him. 

For Roscoe Jones, if most people think he is cool, he feels he’s probably winning the game.  When he gets to work five minutes late, but still before his coworkers, he considers it success.  He likes to be the one who contributes the most in the conversation about last night’s TV shows.  His circle of friends all wear similar sports coats and ripped jeans when they go out.  He rock climbs and camps because secretly he wants to post on eHarmony that he is outdoorsy.  He lowered his Honda Civic even though the bumper scrapes on dipping driveways.  He goes home and watches TV at night to kill time, because he is bored of this game.  bored with life.  Maybe he’ll get some rest from all this, he says, when he’s dead.

One thing that was different between Gregory James and Roscoe Jones is this.  Roscoe compares himself to the people around him and evaluates his success by the society he lives in.  Greg compares himself to the man he could be-that God has uniquely patented him to become.  He knew that his identity and purpose was best found in the eyes of his creator, and he did his best to find and become that for which he was designed.

little but loved

look up, dear soldier

 

we are little but loved

unworthy but chosen

of pride we are above

with confidence, unfrozen

 

I keep finding infections in my soul that I could irradicate if I just realized two things.  first I must understand that I am very, very little in comparison to God.  Second, I am very, very loved.

Some days i can work a room or i can out-draw my coworkers.  That inflates my dirty pride and unleashes my untamed ego. This gets pretty ugly.  when all seems to say i am the biggest of humans, I must remember i am but a mite tangled in the carpet of God’s house.  Quite little, yes i am. 

And then on those days when some old church lady overhears my perverse sexual confession, or i am proven a liar at work, i tumble headlong into pits of unworthiness.  i become a stuttering, cloudy-headed nebbish.  But this cloud would dissapate the moment i remembered that the creator of the world still loves me enough to romance and ransom me at the price of his own life.  yes, quite loved I am. I am.

humility and confidence are not supposed to be opposites.  believe that there is one much greater than you, and you live in proper position with others- sharing in each others’ imperfections and judging no one.  then remember that no matter how you fail, He still has promised you a purpose and life in His unbreakable contract of love, which gives us confidence that we are still exactly who we are supposed to be.  By nature, we are unworthy in all respects, but the one who is most worthy has chosen us, and deemed us priceless above all the things He created.

light-saber that sin

guys love to watch light-saber duals in star wars and supernatural fighting acrobatics in the Matrix.  I think it’s because we feel like we were made to defend and fight for something in epic battles ourselves. 

I’ve been discouraged lately at how weak my soul is.  When a temptation comes my way, i so easily give in.  It seems like a hopeless battle against an impossible onslought of ammunition. 

C.S. Lewis says (in Mere Christianity) “for however important chastity (or courage, or truthfulness, or any other virtue) may be, this process [trying to resist temptations] trains us in habits of the soul which are more important still.”

Our sins can have earthly consequences but our souls live forever.  What if each temptation coming my way is an opportunity for training and strengthening my soul.  I picture myself learning to wield a light saber. I can deflect every laser that comes my way with a well executed swing.  And with every laser that i deflect away, my skills are honed to be a little bit tighter and more masterful. And even if I err on some strokes and the onslaught singes my soul, I learn from them too. 

Seeing my soul as an eternal entity that can even today begin the long training to become a jedi, a Neo, or any other warrior that battles evil with perfected skill gives me a new inspiration to try again.  Eventually, we trust that our skills do reach into the supernatural and our efforts will overpower all things natural, because our power is from God. 

So lately I’ve pictured myself poised, clumsily holding a light saber.  And when an arrow or a laser of temptation barrels towards me, I swing my saber with a quick, determined, purposeful stroke, deflecting the temptation and taking pride in my first steps of becoming a warrior batting better than 50 for God.  Not because he needs me to fight in order to win but because my soul was fashioned in the beginning of time to take part in His epic war.

hear the music

I watched a pretty good movie tonight and was thinking it seems a bit like my life. The weird, skinny guy fighting his personal issues is actually the protagonist.  But why do the moments in my life seem so inconsequential?  Something about the music in the sound track makes the situations ideal, univeral, and eternal.

If i could just hear God’s sound track to my life, would i remember that every moment is part of an ideal, universal, eternal story?  Would I still let them down If i believed that my story was seen by thousands of audience members hoping to find a hero to believe in- or at least just hoping the good guy will do the right thing when he thinks no one is watching?

If you’re watching now, i need to say i’m sorry.  So sorry.  I make a terrible hero.  I don’t even think I’m the good guy.  Please, Jesus, sing to me the music.  You are my only hope.  Remind me of your plot.  Change me and make me into a good guy again.  You are my rescuer.  You can redeem my character.  You are my turning point. You are my Aslan, my Superman, my William Wallace dying for me.  Save me.  You are my only hero.

dirty, dirty love

I picked Cork up as a hitchhiker.  He’s about 60 and his teeth are almost rotted out.  He had recently been asked to leave his last church so I started to bring him to mine.  He was asked to leave my church when he wouldn’t stop sending recorded messages to hundreds of randomly picked telephone numbers from the phone book, inviting them to our church.  Plus he kept going to the young adult class and hitting on the girls.

He introduced me to my dear friend Bonnie.  She is 65 years old.  She frantically throws out stories like shrapnel grenades.  She talks almost incoherrently about her absent son named Soul-star, about making mischeif in the military, and how as a child she was unnamed and adopted by a mafia house that made her smuggle guns.  She totes heavy oxygen bottles around which gets her out of breath, and she rarely stops to breathe because she’s talking.

It was always quite a scene when they came to church with me.  One sunday i remember walking out of church to my car.  Cork sauntered, singing with his head back, squinting into the sky. Sugar-saturated coffee splashed over his styrofoam cup.  Bonnie followed, rolling her bag of oxygen bottles down curbs and wheezing as she told a story about her neighbor putting witchcraft curses on her, trying to speak over Cork’s singing. 

They got into my car.  “Cork, please be careful with the coffee,” I said.

Cork yelled at Bonnie not because she had just told us she had gotten jiggy with their mutual friend, but because she never came over to CORK’S house any more.  Then the conversation went to politics.  Cork yelled and shook his fist and Bonnie wheezed excuses.  I just kept quiet and kept looking back at the coffee splashing all over the front of Cork’s stained shirt.

I finally dropped Cork off and then went to drop off Bonnie.  I helped her carry her oxygen up the stairs and she fumbled with her ball of keys for five minutes trying to unlock her door, the whole time telling me something about how the people upstairs kept flooding her apartment, and how the cockroaches were eating all of her parakeet’s food. 

Finally she opened her door and turned to me. “Thank you for taking me to church Ross.  I love you.  You remind me of my son.”  I stopped her before she could go into another story about her son.  But it didn’t work.  As she kept on talking I looked at the goopy white globs forming at the corners of her mouth.  Maybe it was because of her meds.  Maybe it was mouth bugars.  maybe that’s just what happens when you don’t have time to swallow or lick your lips. 

I stopped her again, “Bonnie!  Be quiet!  I have to go now!”

“Ok, Ok.  Keep praying for me.  I need it.  You remind me of my son so much.  He was so smart and was going to be an eagle scout until-”

“Bonnie, i gotta go.”

Hey. . . are you ok?

“Ok, ok.  Wait.” 

 I watched her round, palid face and those festering white balls of slime in the corners of her mouth lean in towards me.  She wrapped her arms around me and kissed me, wetly on the cheek.  I cringed and hugged her back. 

As i drove away that day, I wiped my cheek and examined my back seat for coffee stains. I was exhausted but I was content.  I was dirty but i had survived.   It’s hard to not get bloody in battle.  It’s hard to save a child from drowning without getting wet.  It’s hard to jump into someone else’s world without getting some of it on you.  But that’s what Jesus did.  And he got us and our dirt all over him. 

It would be nice to have a clean, comfortable, disinfected life, but a life without love would be worthless, and it’s almost impossible to truly love without getting dirty.

getting into heaven

mud pies in the gutter

mud pies in the gutter

The teenager told his dad, i’m sick of always having to do what you say.  I’m gonna run away and go where I can do what I want.

He found drugs, sex, and rock and roll and liked it.  But a few months down the road he realized that if he kept this up, he would be living on the streets in less than a decade. 

One day he and his friends happened to be passing through his dad’s home town.  He was a little drunk and a little daring so he stopped by his dad’s house- just to see what would happen.

His father saw him walking up to the house and ran out to him with open arms.  “I’m so glad you’ve come home!  You look like hell but no matter what you’ve done- im just glad to have you home.  You’re my son and I love you.  I forgive you for running away and cursing me.  We’ll throw a big party for you! c’mon inside!  HEY EVERYBODY!  HE CAME BACK!”

The boy stopped, slumped off his fathers arm and said, “Yo, dad.  I just stopped by to see if anything’s changed.”  He looked up at the big, beautiful house, and all the friends and his brother’s kids running around.  He could see the shiny Harley in the driveway where someone had been washing it.  “Would I have to cut my hair?” He tested his dad.

“Well, the hair really isn’t so important but you still can’t bring drugs or guns into the house.  There’s better things in here than those.”  the father hesitated.  He had missed his son so much but the rules still applied.  “Please, just trust me.  This life is better than that one.”

“You don’t love me the way i am.” he pushed his hair behind his ears and looked up at the beautiful house again.  He stepped back and caught himself from falling over.  He was still a little bit drunk.

“I love you no matter what. but to live in my house you must want to give up the things that are holding you back.  I know how to make you a happier and healthier life.”

The boy took one last look.  felt the bag of weed in his pocket and spit into the grass.  “You haven’t changed a bit.  I still can’t do what I want here.  Peace out dad.” The boy turned around got back into the van with his friends and drove away.   

Jesus has forgiven us, meaning we are clean, whether we accept it or not.  so then all of us are now worthy of being in heaven, right?  so what, then, is keeping some of us out?  Is it perhaps our own choice?  

Maybe i want to do my own thing, even if I think it’s less healthy for me in the long run.  Or maybe I think my choices will be better for me in the long run but my dad knows that I’ve been decieved into thinking that by cool music, and clever marketing.

When we get to heaven, what type of people will choose to enter?  How about a confident pastor who spent his whole career growing his megachurch to 100,000 people, even though God had told him to keep it small?  Would he now all of a sudden decide to do what God wants?  What about a mass murderer who after living a life of shame and emptiness realizes he had it all wrong, and desperately wants to know happiness?  What about a muslim woman who every day willingly submitted to the will of her overbearing husband and chose to love him anyways.  Perhaps she is most ready to listen to God’s instructions (good ones) and love Him.  and what about Mother Theresa who spent her whole life trying to do what would make God happy.  i think she probably ran to Jesus and finally fell into her lover’s arms, his scent and spirit fulfilling her, the consummation of a lifelong engagement.

So, hear this.  you are forgiven and you can come into his house.  he knows how to make you happy.  But the catch is, you have to obey him and trust that his instructions will make you into a certain type of person- the uniquely beautiful, severely intelligent, infinitely loving being he made us to be.  He should know how to do it.  He’s been planning it since the time the world began. 

welcome home.

1+1=3… trinity

attraction

what if there was just one part of God.  If he was alone before he created everything would he be a God of love- i mean if there was no one else there to love?

but if there were two parts of God, then each one could love the other, and this could now be a defining aspect of the divine… love.

C.S. Lewis (in Mere Christianity) suggests that the Holy spirit is the third entity that springs out of the eternal relationship of Jesus and The Father.

In certain families isn’t the spirit between them cantankerous even when individually they are happy people?  Or when two very serious friends get together, a very goofy spirit comes out.  It’s like the combination of two unique entities births the existence of a third. 

But the spirit of these imperfect unions are not alive on their own.  Is it possible that when there is a PERFECT union like that of the Father and Jesus, a living spirit springs from it?  Seems a little far fetched, I know.  But When two people become perfectly united as one body, I guess a baby does spring forth! 

this would explain how we each can share in that same spirit by having a relationship with God.  When we are loving, joyful, peaceful, patient– the qualities that exist between Jesus and the Father– are we not living in the spirit between Jesus and God?  It’s like we’re joining into the relationship with them.  Well that’s exactly what it is. 

this would explain why blaspheming the holy spirit is the one unforgiveable sin.  If we reject all of the qualities that Jesus and God produce in their union, we would not be living with them, would not be living in heaven where their qualities permeate everything. 

just a thought.

big lie #1

I think that the biggest lie we modern folk have so eagerly swallowed is that being a servant is abomnible.  we say, ‘If i call anyone my master it is social injustice.  if anybody is making me do something i don’t want to do, i’m being oppressed.’

i think we’ve forgotten how glorious were the days of kings and kingdoms.  In the stories of old, a king’s vassals trusted that the king made the best decisions for them because he knew more about his nation than any single one of them did.  But in a democracy everybody does what he or she thinks is best and there is no single, omniscient decision maker to guide the nation together.  We have a president but even he has to make hundreds of people think like he does to make a decision happen.

the reason, i surmise, that it seems so risky and abomnible to serve one single person is because we have seen so many examples of ruthless, tyranical rulers.  they abused their subjects by forcing them to cater to their every need or desire.  But a good king holds the prosperity and health of the nation as the utmost priority. 

So, if there was a good king that you could trust to guide you towards your ultimate health and happiness, would you follow?  If you hear him telling you, put down that cigarette, throw away that bottle of rum, could it be because he wants you to be a happier, healthier person than even you want you to be?  He knows far more about what’s best for humanity.  He designed it. (see Kneeling Lonely)

[If you don't believe God is good, here's a different question for you.  even if God is evil, but he had all power to control anything in the universe and determined the fate of your soul, wouldn't it still be a better decision to be on his good side, at least, and obey him?]

the doll maker

Lothar was mayor of a little German town named Saarbruken for 50 years.  He exhausted himself trying to make the town better, but stubborn people and rotten political systems kept him from really changing anything. He finally retired in despair and spent his time making dolls.

His wife, Gertrude, spent her days helping the poor children on the streets of Saarbruken. 

Six months after Lothar retired Gertrude was diagnosed with a terminal disease.  She had contracted it from the unsanitary children on the street. 

“My dear, will you be able to help the children any more?” Lothar asked one Sunday afternoon as Gertrude walked by his old reading chair. 

Gertrude sighed, ”I will try to be there for them when i can but i don’t think I will be able to for much longer.”

“Why did you do it for so many years, my dear? . . .  Just a question.”

“Because I wanted to help make your city better.”

“You did it for me?” Lothar reached for her hand.

She tenderly settled herself down on his lap, “You inspired me with your dreams of the city.  I did what i could.”

Lothar rested his head on her shoulder.  He breathed in her perfume and wrapped his arms around her.

That night Lothar started a new project. He measured the mantle in their living room and calculated that it would hold 5 dolls sitting side by side.  So he thought of 5 of Gertrude’s most dearly loved children from the street.  He would make replica dolls for her so that she could remember the children she didn’t get to see any more.  So that night, after Gertrude was fast asleep, he crept down to his shop and started to build.  He lathed the wooden arms and carved the delicate faces.  He cut and sewed the tiny clothing. 

Lothar worked on the dolls three hours every night for the following three months.  Gertrude got weaker and he knew that her time was short.  December came and he decided that he would give them to her for Christmas.  He felt that this was going to be her last Christmas. 

Supplies were running short.  The town was in the Saarlanda region which was vying for independence at the time but in the negotiations trade roots had been cut off.  But before the shops had run out, Lothar had procured everything in just the right amounts so that he could finish the dolls. 

Three nights before Christmas Lothar snuck out of bed and went down to his shop to work.  He had to finish painting the faces and attaching the flaxen hair.  But to his dismay he found that mice had found the hair and chewed it up or taken it away for their nests.  The red paint had been completely spilled out and little footprints tracked all over his workspace.  He collapsed in his chair and cried in frustration.  He had not the connections to get these supplies before christmas.  All that he could do was paint the eyes and the noses and the little rosy cheeks.  The lips and the hair he would not be able to finish. 

He stomped up the stairs, drew back the covers with white knuckles, and slipped in quietly beside his wife.  Throughout the next day Gertrude noticed he was terse and he shut cabinet doors harder than usual.  That night he didn’t get up in the middle of the night like she had noticed he had for the last three months.  Out of curiosity she got up and wandered down to his workshop.  She saw the unfinished dolls, the emptied red paint and the scattered peices of hair.  She went and touched each one in the low light and spoke each name that she recognized.  She sat down in her husband’s chair, put her face in her hands and cried. 

The morning before Christmas Lothar found a note from Gertrude on the kitchen table that said she had an early hair appointment and would be back to make him breakfast.  That day he went out and found a set of beautiful glass vases to fill the spot on the mantle. He wrapped and hid them and waited for Gertrude to come home.

“I like your hair cut, darling.  Why did you cut it?”

“I cut it for you.” She stopped and wrapped her arms around him and rested her head on his shoulder.  “Merry Christmas eve, my dear.”

“Thank you.  You are so beautiful to me.  Oh!  what happened to your finger?” He held her bandaged finger.  “I poked it with a needle.”  There was a silence.  Then she said, “You know, maybe we shouldn’t give gifts this Christmas.  I already know you love me.”

“Ok, that sounds good.  Don’t get me anything.” He would give her the vases anyways.

On Christmas morning Lothar brought out the three wrapped vases.  Gertrude was too weak this morning and asked him to unwrap them for her.  She saw them and leaned up enough to kiss him.  She said his present was under the tree and he opened a small hand saw.  He grabbed her hand and said, “I have to tell you something.” She reached over with her other hand and put it on his.  He continued, “I wanted to build you something but I couldn’t finish it.  It’s just I don’t know how many more years we’ll have together and I wanted to give you something very special.”

She squeezed his hand weakly.  “I have something else for you.  It’s down in your shop.”

He looked at her in wary confusion.

“Can you carry me down there?”

He looked at her frail frame.  “I will definitely try.”  he picked her up and they went down to the workshop, which he had not seen since the mice had ruined the dolls.  He set her down in his chair and pulled the light bulb’s chain.  He saw the 5 beautiful dolls sitting in a perfect row, complete and pristine with hair and lips.  Some were boys and some were little girls but they all had the same hair color.  It was Gertrude’s hair.  He looked at her in amazement.  “How- ?” 

She held her bandaged finger up by her face and gave him an embarrassed smile. 

“You pricked your finger for the lips? and Your hair!” He grabbed her hand and cherished her bandaged finger.  He touched her smiling face. 

“Now I’ll always be with you for Christmas.”

They cried and laughed in each others’ arms on Christmas day.

 

Many Christmases before, there was a gift similar to broken dolls.  God had made them as the most beautiful gift he had ever given to his dear son.  But rats came in and ruined them before they were ever completed.  God saw the hopeless mess, he despaired and gave up on them.  But when Jesus saw the disappointment on his father’s face he decided he would come down and fix them for Him.  He would dress them in his own body and blood and make them once again a worthy present to please his dismayed father.  They would not only be beautiful creations but they would be little peices of himself he could give to his father, and they would forever be with Him.

seeing god’s poop chute

my friend Chad thinks that among men, nobody knows absolute truth.  But, he thinks there IS absolute truth out there.  I think both of his statements are absolutely correct.  God’s just so darn big.

like mice looking up at an elephant.  one sees the kind face and a curious trunk, another sees clumsy stomping feet, and still another is scattering for his life because he sees a lifting tail.  And even though they are looking up at the same creature, about the only thing they see in common is that the elephant is very much bigger than them.

my wise friend Naomi read me part of a book that basically said, searching for God is searching for reality.  Sometimes i go for walks and pray.  When i step out of my house and look up at the sky, I’m humbled.  I’m humbled because i’m reminded that the REAL God is not the God i’ve built inside my little skull.   They may have some of the same characteristics but I can’t forget that He’s just not going to fit in here.

on my walk last night i prayed, God, I want to know who you REALLY are.  And the answer i think i heard was, “Ross, I’m way too big for you to understand.  but for now I will show you enough to get you through the day.”  It makes me sad.  I want to know you, God.  I want to understand my creator.  But I know enough to trust that He knows what’s best for me, because he is very, very much bigger than me.

dumb guy

dude

what if that handicapped bagger at the super market is the dude guarding the gates of heaven?  What if He is standing at Jesus’ right hand (Mark 10:37) and Jesus says to him, “Henry, do you know this guy?”  And that uninteresting, fat little man says, “yeah, Ross came through my line at my grocery story all the time.” 

my friend Cliff has a mentally challenged friend that works at a grocery store.  And one day while he was praying, Cliff saw a vision of his friend standing at Jesus’ side judging the nations.

And stupid me spends all my time trying to look good for my pastor so I’ll be asked to be an elder, and look cool for the beautiful people in the Wichita social club so they’ll ask to go out with me.  And Henry? i simply dismiss him with a hurried smile.

You know, the irony of the whole thing is that Henry would probably still wrap me in a huge bear hug and say “No need to hurry now, Ross- we have all the time in the world to get to know each other.  Jesus, this guy’s a friend of mine.” 

Jesus would smile at Henry with pride, and then look at me as I crumple to the floor in a puddle of humiliation.  And he would say, with a knowing gaze, “You heard him, Ross.  Come on in.  Any friend of Henry is a friend of mine.”

becoming powerful

God, I think of how good i could make Christians look if . . .

People knew that i made each look with my eyes purposeful and disciplined 

if they knew i got up early to pray each morning 

if they knew me as the most generous and peaceful and joyfilled face at the party 

if they knew I was completely pure with the girls I date and that I protect their hearts better than anyone else. 

if the people knew i always drank cherry coke instead of beer and gave the biggest tip anyways

if they knew me as the best worker at my job, being honest and on time, the only one that didn’t read personal emails at work 

if they knew me as the best listener they ever knew 

If people knew me as the guy that left every place more beautiful than when i came. . .

 

oh, and if they only knew how egotistical I am. . . yeah, that’s right, Ross.  You suck.  My dear God, my hero, what would be more beautiful than a puff-chested chin-high Ross Boone would be if in every situation you humbled ME, and somehow that showed people how cool YOU are in the process.  If all the faces could turn from silly me and only look to You instead. What a relief it would be if i could let my hopes in what i could be just fade away.  And I could just be happy with being looked upon by Your proud eyes as all the rest ignored me for another possible glimpse of you.

God is bigger

I get frustrated when I read that we must hate our family or we cannot be Jesus’ disciple (Lk 14:26).  I start to doubt Jesus when he says, ask for anything and I’ll give it to you (Jn 14:14).  I get peeved when Jesus says more will be given to those who have, and for those who have nothing even that will be taken away (Lk 19:26).  Was Christ a fanatical rebuplican when it came to karma taxes? 

I doubt he was democrat or republican.  but on my best days I believe he was God.  And the fact that i don’t understand why he says certain things should not peeve me, but instead should show me the levels of intimacy i have yet to grow to with him when I will someday understand the whys.

God learns

oops

My brilliant friend, Cliff proposed an idea to me the other day.  It was that God learns.  he said something like: God created man and then seems to have learned that it was not good for him to be alone. It seems true that God learns.  He created the universe and saw that it was good (as if he didn’t already know it would be).  and when man screwed it all up God said, oops, I better flood ‘em and try again.  A little bit of trial and error going on.  It sure seems like God learns.

How is that possible if God is outside of time and can flip to any page in history and read it like a book- that he wrote, no less.  How can he be limited inside the story that he wrote to learn from what happens in it? 

Another friend, Naomi (who’s very clever with words) broke down this word for me: CON-descend.  God descended “with” us. 

What if in the condescending, God veilded a part of his own wisdom from himself.  And he did it for the purpose of living in real relationship with us.  what sort of relationship would it be if my dad knew and wrote out every event in my life before it happened?  i think it would be like trying to have a relationship with a book, fighting to unstick the next heavy page. 

So i don’t deny that our God knows all things including the future long before it happens, but maybe for the sake of a relationship with his children, he can set the completely divine aspect of his character aside to be in real relationship with us.  And he wanted to do it so much, that he stayed in character even while we shoved nails and spears into him and shoved him into the ground.  but then is when the divine kicked back in.  he hopped back up and winked at us and said, “it’s been a pleasure condescending with you, but now hop aboard if you’d like and come share in the divine with me.”

Glorify?

We sing that we ”glorify” God.  We pray that God will help us “glorify” him with our lives.  This is a super churchy word that belongs in prayer and worship.  but how does it appear in my life?

Imagine a woman who spoke of her husband as the love of her life, and her hero.  Imagine your coworker acting so eager to complete an assignment for his boss because he is such a good boss.  Imagine being a kid’s teacher when he tells you he will not cheat on a test because his daddy taught him up right.  what does that make you think about his father?

If we saw someone at a party go up to the lonely zitty kid in the corner to befriend him, wouldn’t we say, “that was pretty cool.”  And wouldn’t we like Christ a little more if we found out he was a Christian.

And what if a friend of yours said she dated this guy who said on their first date that he wouldn’t sleep with her because he believed sex should only come when love and a promise accompanies it?  Would it make you think someone is actually listening to a God who he respects?

And what if you asked the happiest person you know why they are so happy. And to respond they drew close and whispered in your ear, “Because I have been given abundant life.”

So, sometimes i think i make god look very uncool by being the stiff at the party that doesn’t drink and talks condescendingly to those that do.  and I make god look uncool by blatantly walking away from a crude conversation at school.  I make god look very uncool by purposely steering clear of the homosexual at work. 

Instead, could i be the most fun and most selfless at a party, because I have been given grace and abundant life.  And could i make fun of my chosen abstinence to make people laugh when they share crude humor with me.  and would it not be the coolest thing to treat the homosexual with more respect and more friendship and more understanding than even your other work associates.  And when he says, “Why are you so nice to me?  You know i’m gay, right?  Aren’t you a religious guy?”  I could make my God look so cool when I say, “Hey man, God is graceful and I just know that he loves you and me both so well.”

why suffering?

My friend tells me how his mom has an undiagnosed disease that makes her blow up at family reunions or get in cars and drive until she gets lost.  She will throw things at her family members and scream terrible things.  She whispers to herself all day and is draining to be around.  My friend lowers his head and says, “sometimes i just wish God would take her home.”

My friend thinks she is this way because she has been raped several times, been cheated on by more than one husband, and was abused when she was young. 

What makes this suffering even more unfair is that it was her sacrificial love that ruined her.  She decided to take a prolonged vacation from work (the only thing that kept her sane) to nurse her dying mother and when she finally went back to work they had eliminated her position.  That is what my friend thinks ultimately broke her.

My friend says that she used to be sharp, strong willed, loving with a completely sacrificial love and she was beautiful.  My friend says, “the sad thing is that I know that if I were in her place, she would dedicate her life to helping me through it.”

So why all this suffering for a person that just doesn’t deserve it?  God, why don’t you take your daughter home and relieve her of this pain?  it’s gotta be better up there.

My friend says that there are times when he gets to walk with his mother in the park and she begins to smile again and starts to light up.  My friend’s step-dad sounds like an amazing man.  he has stayed by his wife’s side through all of this.  He is patient and completely loves her, even still.  He takes her shopping and cleans the house.  These are beautiful things in my eyes, like diamonds.

What if suffering is like flowers of the fields and acts of love are like gems.  Suffering is temporary, it can only last as long as a lifetime.  But what if every loving deed is seen by God and all of his hosts and is remembered forever.  the longer my friend’s mother lives the more times God gets the opportunity to say, “that is my son walking with his mother.  And there is her husband still holding her tight at night.   They are loving her even when it’s hard.  That makes me so proud. They are forging something beautiful.”

I bet it is better up there, but what if it’s better up there partly because of what we do down here?  Every time my friend walks with his mother and shares her burdens with her, or her husband makes dinner and eats at her side, maybe a beautiful stone is placed in heaven to remember it.  Like old testament characters were commanded to build stone altars to remember different times God had saved them or taught them something.  Maybe the beautiful deeds of my friend and his step-dad are the stones that accumulate in heaven in some way, and are the stones with which god builds his city.  And maybe every day we will walk not on streets of Gold, but streets made of something much more beautiful.  In each stone Christ is partially reflected- reminding us from where we drew our strength to love.  And all the streets and walls and thrones are forever reminding us of the beautiful ore mined from a difficult era.  

So, why suffering?  I don’t know.  But I do know that it is the pain and effort to find and extricate precious stones that makes them so valuable.  If love was not difficult, the deeds might be commonplace and worthless like the piles of pennies gathering dust in my car.  But taken from deep within a mountain of dirt and then carefully, masterly cut, the glimmer of these diamonds is the glimmer in the eye of our savior who came and suffered through hell for us.

Christ is my hero

He is my CEO.  He is my father.  He is my husband.  He is my commander in chief.  He is my author.  He is the archetype from which i was modeled.  He is my hero and I realized that Jesus, the one anointed as the world’s savior is the superhero that i always hoped was real.

what’s your band’s name?

band names are some of the keenest indicators of trends in modern culture.  “Deathcab for Cutie” “Blink 182″ ”The strokes”.  they are often adroitly poetic phrases from social commentaries introduced with prodigious timing again into common language.  But I sometimes see a certain dichotomy in the names of christian bands and secular ones. 

The names of christian bands are rarely as creative and smart as secular names but they have a purpose.  “Jars of Clay” “Tree 63″ “Third Day” “Casting Crowns”. 

I could not find the meaning of Blink, or of 182, and I’m guessing it was cool because it was unique and random (initiating the wave of number named bands), but the 63 of Tree refers to Psalm 63 which talks about praise during hard times- giving glory to a purpose larger than ourselves. 

I think the name “Deathcab for Cutie” is hilarious.  It was taken from a title of a parody song in 1967, who got the phrase from a pulp fiction magazine who got it from a book discussing british pop culture.  The name is a keenly distilled term of historical british culture whose revival was ingeniously timed.  But a comment on culture is just funny and clever.  We like it a lot, because it’s creative and trend-making but that does no good beyond making myself look better by putting myself at the crest of that wave.

Jars of Clay comes from 2 Corinthians 4 which talks about the treasure of the gospel being hidden in insignificant vessels such as people.  Casting crowns also points to God instead of themselves.  In Revalations 24 elders cast their crowns before their king, continuously glorifying him and his purposes forever.  Though christian band names are rarely as innovative and clever, they choose to name and sing their songs for an ultimate purpose outside themselves, instead of only make a social commentary, or share a slice of life. 

There are so many brilliant creative people in music and film and literature, who make the most poignant, accurate comments on the human condition and on life, but to what use are we if our talents are pointed at ourselves and others in society? It’s cyclical reasoning.  It’s planar travel.  It’s a support group at an AA meeting or a dated poetry reading.  It’s fun and can fill up our lives with joy, but beyond ourselves and our finite societies it has minimal purpose.

french fries smudge my soul

A friend went into McDonalds the other day and ordered two cheeseburgers for $2.12.  He brought his tray to our table and realized they accidentally also gave him a medium fry. 

He went back and gave them the fries, knowing they would probably have to throw them away. 

I asked him why he did it when all those fries would go to waste.  He responded, “it’s not about results; It’s about character.”

The speed limit along I-135 is posted at 60.  I used to set my cruise control at about 69 because i believe i won’t get stopped.  But am I driving to get to the next place as fast as I can do it without getting caught?  Or am I driving, and doing everything else in my life under gaze of God that holds me to a higher law?  If he says obey my government and my government says 60…

A while ago I met a man in line at a soup kitchen where I was volunteering.  I mentioned I led a Bible study and he said he wanted to go.  So I started bringing him and it made people uncomfortable.  Most of them eventually stopped coming.  The results of my decision to bring him had dwindled the numbers of my Bible study.  Had I made the right decision? IS it all about numbers?

What if our father’s goal is to make us the brightest, most blameless, noble creatures we can be. What if every decision leaves an eternal mark on our souls?   Is a medium fry that we did not earn, worth the little greasy smudge it leaves on our integrity forever, when it could have been an opportunity to refine the gold of which we’re made instead?  What sort of invisible law does this show people we live by?  What better exercise and test of faith and character could our great Mentor give us than one that seems to have no profitable results for us on this earth?

a prayer for hard times

god, take away my pain, or give it purpose.

Mr. Lord, the CEO

A 10 yr old boy was baptised on sunday.  The pastor said, “do you believe that Jesus is Lord, and that he died for the remission of your sins?” The boy, under the hot lights nodded.  Poor guy.  I doubt he’s ever been told what a lord is- except that Jesus is it.  And the word ‘remission’- I don’t even think I know exactly what it means.

What would be a modern day metaphor to help us understand these words?

A couple years ago I began working for a company that provides a product.  The product is a self-help book and tape seminar called “Zoey”.  The president of the company, Mr. Lord is an elusive man of incomparable business genius.  He drops into meetings briefly, puts in his two cents, and it changes the whole direction of the discussion.  His name is all over the business journals, somehow sprinkled into every section.  he seems to have his fingers in all industries and has a mysteriously large social network.  but no one can put a finger on exactly where he is at a certain time.  And about the time they put a label on him as entrepreneur, or CEO, or psychologist, he breaks the mold with some new statement or innovation.  And even if you google the guy- you’ll never find a picture of him. 

Part of the success of his company (300 million in sales and 4.5 million employees worldwide in just 10 years) is that he cares very much for his employees.  He believes in his product so much that he requires each of his employees to study and apply his techniques because it will make them happy and strong and productive.  Basically the Zoey seminars teach people to do what is right, to help others, and to send constant emails or texts to Mr. Lord’s personal inbox.  Nobody knows how he has set up the system to answer each message, whether with a automated computer program or if he outsources it to india, but he somehow gives what seems to be a personal answer to each message.  Sometimes he mobilizes others in the company to help you accomplish what you asked for in the message.  I’ve heard that sometimes he just drops by and sets the thing in your lap, winks and leaves.

I was the manager of the record keeping department.  This involved managing the security of tons of personal information.  One day two years ago I was working late.  It was dark and everybody had left hours before.  I came upon a computer folder under Mr. Lord’s personal profile.  I saw that it was restricted to only Mr. Lord himself but I was almost certain I knew which password he would have used.  The title of the folder was:

"the_secret_of_zoey"

I knew I shouldn’t do it, but i thought, who would ever know.  I opened it and saw.  I suddenly knew what it was that made Mr. Lord and his business so great.  And i was suddenly ashamed I had betrayed him.

But now it was too late.  The next day i called in sick.  I spent the whole morning thinking about it and by lunch time I had made up my mind.  I called both of the main newspapers in town and told them that I had found the secret to Mr. Lord’s success.  Immediately I became as big as Mr. Lord.  Everybody wanted to know me. 

But it quickly turned sour.  The newspapers scoured my past and brought up all my junk, trying to prove (I think) that I didn’t deserve to hold the secret.  I was summoned to court by all sorts of other companies on any possible charge that could be brought against me.  they thought they could sue or convict the secret out of me.  They unburied everything from when i used company money to get porn on my hotel TV, to when I broke the speed limit driving the company vehicle.  they sued me for every newspaper or penny I had picked off the ground and they dug up the smallest hints of racism and sexual harrassment from when I was a kid!  If i knew this was going to happen, I wouldn’t have…

they really just wanted me because of my secret.  they knew it was their key to power and money. 

I was held in protective custody in a small cell with a sink and a toilet and a bed, but even the guards to my cell wanted to get it from me.  It was hell. 

then a new bit of news broke.  There was a man who claimed that he was Mr. Lord’s son and he said that it was actually his fault that Mr. Lord’s folder had been breached.  But not only that, he said he would take any punishment that was coming my way, because he didn’t want me to leave his father’s company over this.   Even after the terrible thing that I had done to his father, he still wanted me as an employee!

but the most ironic thing of all was that John Lord Jr. was my very own administrative assistant, my paper pusher!- a nerdy little guy that usually smelled kind of grubby!  I had no idea he was related to Mr. Lord! but he had the birth certs to prove it! 

He agreed to go to court and he quickly pleaded guilty for my crime along with every other crime that had surfaced that anybody in the whole company had committed!  He said he had known about them all and that it was his fault that he had never let his father know! 

They worked the system and sued him and his father’s company for all that it was worth… and they brought it down. 

I, however, was set free.

One day I was walking and thinking.  i found myself in the neighborhood of the old Zoey enterprises.  There were a few lights on.  I walked in and to my surprise many of the people still were at their desks working.  The company had filed bankruptcy, because of me, and because of all the other ridiculously minute crimes each person always commits in any company.  but these people were still working, and they seemed happy!  They were not rushed.  They were not arguing.  But all seemed to have the same goal in mind.  what was that goal?

I sat down at my old desk and turned on my computer.  I turned around while i waited for it.  I looked down the hall and listened to the voices.  What did they know, that made them sound so… so content?

I clicked on Outlook and pulled up my email.  I had a few emails from the company HR announcing the bankruptcy and some of the procedures.  Then a new email came in with its little jingle. 

It was from Mr. Lord. I opened it and it said.  “ross, come into my office, please.”

I replied back with shaking fingers.  “Yes, sir.  Right away.  I’m sorry, Mr. Lord but I do not think I know where is your office?”

“All of this is my office.  i am in sitting in the cubicle next to you.”

i felt like i should take off my shoes or drop to my knees.  I do not deserve to be in his building.  I must beg this man for forgiveness and pray that he will not take out his anger on me.  He could turn everyone in this whole city against me.  This man controls my 401K.  he knows what i did, he could get me arrested.  He could get security to drag me out of the building.  Maybe i should just get up and leave before he can get his hands on me.

I slowly stood up.  My heart was pounding.  I had never been so afraid of seeing someone before. 

“Ross.” 

I turned towards the voice.  a man in the cubicle next to me stood up and slowly folded his arms and rested them on the cubicle wall.  he was a balding man with glasses. Thin.  He had a smile on his face. 

“Mr. Lord!” I gasped. somehow i knew it was him.  I was shaking and instantly sweating.

“Would you like to continue working for me?”

“what?!”  He looked serious. “Well, i don’t think i could, Mr. Lord.”  I stood up and started to plead my defense.  but I stopped.  He wasn’t here to scold me.  ”The truth is, Mr. Lord.  I haven’t even finished watching the tapes and i really just skimmed the books.  I don’t do the right thing, as you know.  I only usually help the people that will help me back.  I can’t remember the last email i sent to you-”

“That’s ok, Ross.  Would you like to try again?”

“But… aren’t you mad at me?  I ruined your whole company!”

“No you didn’t ruin it. Look, people are still here.  You, of all people should know that this company couldn’t die.  Don’t you remember the secret of Zoey?”

I hadn’t thought about the actual secret since this all had started.  I just had thought about the fate the secret would give me.  Now I thought back to it.  It was a simple line.  and now it made sense.  I recited, “My company is in the business of making it’s employees prosper.”

“Yep,” Mr. Lord said.  “And it’s because i just like you guys so damn much.”

“But what about your son? He’s in jail.”

“He’ll still inherit my company when he gets out.  He asked me to invite you back.  He must like you.”  Mr. Lord winked.  “Anyways, jail is where he wants to be right now.  He’s just like me. He’s always looking for new employees.  He’s pitching the Zoey plan to the people in jail.  He likes people as much as I do.  Ok, so you’re welcome to stay if you’d like.  I can’t really pay you, but my true employees aren’t doing it for the money.  they just know that if they work for me, I’ll do what I know will make them wise and mature and happy.”  Mr. Lord winked and totally intruded on my personal bubble by giving me a huge bear hug.  As if I were his son.  He turned to leave and the last thing he said was, “Don’t forget about your email. I’d like to hear from you a lot more.”

My Lord is my boss.  He is my CEO.  He is big and important, a lot smarter than me.  He wants the best for me.  And he likes to hear from me, a lot. 

As for remission of sins?  I still don’t know what that means but I think it has something to do with a nerdy little guy that quietly moves around my office.  He catches my mistakes, and covers for me, and smells kind of grubby. 

good enough to go to heaven

Ok, lets do an experiment.  Let’s decide which of these people are good enough to go to heaven?

Reggie is 22 years old in Los Angeles.  His broken family is deeply entrenched in gangs and drugs.  Before he was 10 he had tried cocaine and his brothers were already getting him to steal as initiation for a gang.  When he was 13 he saw one of his brothers get shot and Reggie decided to get out of gangs.  Reggie is the only one in his family that graduated high school.  He is the only one who has a steady wife- even though they fight a lot.  They had a baby before they were married, and they still do a bit of marijuana sometimes because it eases the pain. They live on welfare because that is all they ever knew, but when he looks around him, he is happy that he pulled himself out of the mess his brothers got into.

Trevor is also 22 years old.  He grew up in upper middle class Colorado.  He was involved in youthgroup and graduated in national honor society.  He went to college for engineering and got a job in the military afterwards.  He has started listening to heavy metal music, and he can’t quite shake the smoking habit he picked up in the military.  He gets to church about every other week, when he wakes up in time.  He sleeps around a little bit, even though he knows he shouldn’t, but he thinks, “I’m still a pretty good kid.”

Gerry is 55 years old and lives by himself.  He is a pastor of a small church.  His 25 person congregation is made up of republican couples all above age 30.  He sees laziness and sexual immorality of the younger generations as the impending doom of the nation.  He preaches that they are hopeless and it would do them some good to get some discipline beat into them.  He preaches to stay away from them, lest they drag him and his congregation down with them.

I asked Reggie, ”Who are some people that you don’t think should go to heaven?”

He replied, ”Well, I seen summa my brothers’ friends screw deir lives up and hurt other people so much, I hates to say it, but I wouldn’t want summa dem to be in heaven wit us. They’s some bad dudes.” 

“Trevor, where do you draw the line?  Who do you think should go to heaven?”

“Gosh, there are some jacked up people out ther that just bring our society down.  They just sit on their porch all day or watch tv and argue and throw lamps and stuff at each other, stealing to support their drug habit. I’m afraid to say it but heaven just isn’t supposed to be a ghetto.”

“Gerry? who can you think of that you don’t think should go to heaven?”

“Well, the younger generation is in danger, for sure.  Take almost any kid raised up in the school system these days with their earphones, and cel phones and baggy pants preaching atheism and evolution. They don’t listen.  They don’t respect their elders. Total loss of discipline.  I can’t stand being in the same room as some of them, much more to be in a holy place like heaven with them running around like little devils.”

When is someone good enough to go to heaven?  The key question here is, “where do we draw the line?”  Don’t we draw the line just below ourself, because we think “I’m a pretty good guy and God is love so he wouldn’t send me to hell, right?”

But think about this: we don’t want to have to spend eternity with people worse than us.  I couldn’t stand to be in heaven with child molestors but my pornography isn’t so bad.  Keep those gang bangers out but let my prejudiced little butt in. So if the line is drawn just below the person who decides, how good is the one who decides?  The kicker is, the one who does decide, is perfect. 

This is why nobody can say, “as long as I’m a good person, I’ll go to heaven.”  There’s always someone better who has a higher standard of what is good and they wouldn’t want us to be there with them.  So if that’s the rule, then none of us will be there.  But the rule is different.  The rule maker says, “You’ll never be as good as me on your own, but if you try to obey me, you can come with me for now and I’ll overlook your crap- and I’ll help you become perfect in time.  But there is one thing i can’t stand.  Don’t ever say you don’t want a certain person to come to heaven with us, because I love that person too and if there’s one thing i won’t stand, it’s hearing someone judge someone else.  Unless of course, you want me to start judging.”

why pray #3

A man named Lars was arrested on a bogus charge.  They confined him in a dungeon prison, where the stone walls leaked and rats stole his dinner.  He believed that another man was imprisoned in the cell next to him through the stone wall, but he never knew for sure because the guards had said they would punish anyone who communicated or spoke.

Lars paid the price for talking to the wall, trusting that someone was on the other side listening.  They whipped him until they realized that wouldn’t stop him so they were satisfied with laughing at him.  They knew what Lars knew not- there was not even a cell next to his, nor another prisoner to speak to.

What crazier thing can you think of than a man speaking to a wall with no one behind it?  Especially when there seems to be no response in return. 

Is this what happens in Prayer?  Are we speaking into the sky and words dissapear like air from a leaking tire?  What if there is no one to hear them?  What do people think about us?

Faith.  Prayer into an empty sky requires faith.  Maybe this is why we are required to do it- to exercise our faith with every word.  To prove our faith to the one listening, if there is anyone there.  Why else would we do such an absurd thing.

There were times when Lars doubted anybody was listening to him but he told himself, “either someone is there, or someone is not there.  That’s the only way I’ll ever make a difference in this cell- if I can help someone else.”  So he decided to believe someone was hearing his quiet voice.  He spoke encouragement to his potential commrade.  he spoke of his family that he missed.  He sang songs from his childhood, from the good days.

Lars, did not realize that there was NO cell next to his own.  But what no one else realized was that it was instead the backside of the captain’s quarters that shared walls with Lars.  And each day as Lars poured out his heart the Captain paused in his writing and bookkeeping and listened.  It didn’t take the Captain long, when hearing Lars’ voice and stories, to realize that Lars was a friend from his childhood.  And when Lars sang the old songs of their neighborhood, when things were good, it brought the Captain almost to tears in reminiscence.  It was the captain Lars was ministering to.

At first the captain did not respond at all because he wanted to see how far Lars would go.  but when he saw that Lars would not stop beliving that someone heard him, even with the ridicule he received, he knew Lars could not have commited the crime they accused him of.  Eventually the captain developed a system of tapping on the walls to communicate. 

Lars heard the tapping and at first thought it was just the dripping of water or a chain hanging against a wall, but he decided to listen.  It took faith and practice but he eventually began to understand the code that the Captain was sending him. 

After 2 years in the jail, Lars’ ears had become keen to the language that others thought was just a “swinging chain” or “drips of water”.  And the night came when the message was tapped through the walls, “You have proven yourself to me with your good faith.  Tonight, I will help you escape, Lars.”

And that is one reason why we pray.  Though sometimes we wait through long years of silence we choose to talk into the sky and have faith anyways.  And this faith is what ministers to our Captain. It is this act of faith that shows him our love.  It also shows him that we want him to exist so badly and that the hope in our savior is worth all the effort. 

And we choose to have faith because there is only everything to be gained- people can only be helped by it.  There is nothing to lose, except for people to think we’re a little bit crazy. ;)

Why pray #2

Why pray for something to happen if God already has a better plan?  After all, he knows better than I.  Yet God still says, pray for what you want to happen and pray with confidence, lest we become as weak as a wave blown by the wind.

Once there was a father with three children.  The oldest, Dan saw his two younger brothers fighting all too often.  At first he waited for his dad to do something about it. (see prayer as a copout) His father DID know a good way to solve the problem but he was such a good father that he also saw an opportunity for Dan to grow and learn something through this situation.  So he waited. 

Finally, Dan pleaded to his father, “Dad, please do something about all this arguing!”

Because his father knew that Dan would be a father himself someday he asked, “What would you have me do, Dan?”  And Dan thought and thought and asked his dad to make each of this brothers do something nice for each other and see how it made them feel.

This may not have been the same decision the father would have made but the father knew that it was a good decision and would have a good outcome too.  And Dan would learn better and better in time.  But Dan’s father was very proud when he saw that his son was growing up to be a wise, noble man, after his own image.

Maybe this is why God asks us to pray for things- because he is teaching us to think like Him.  “What would you do if you were a wise, caring, spirit like me.   Good, now lets get to making you into one.”

I have four balls

I wish I could change some of the things I do but it’s so hard.  I wish I could stop lusting.  I wish I could get up when my alarm goes off.  I wish I could believe in God better.

I think four balls are tied together and tug each other around inside us.  The balls are my EMOTIONS, my WILL, my MIND, and my ACTIONS.  To help myself do those things that are so difficult to make myself do, I can start pulling on one or some of these balls and the others tend to follow.

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For example, sometimes i really struggle with having faith.  Sometimes I just don’t feel like believing (my EMOTIONS).  Sometimes I have just decided that God probably doesn’t exist (exercising my power of WILL).  Often times I think there are reasons that god doesn’t exist (my MIND).   And then other times I just stop acting like I believe (ACTIONS). 

I think that when you move any of the four balls in the right direction they will pull the rest along with it.   If I start ACTING like I believe by dropping my knees to my bedside, bowing my head and praying with all my might each night for a week, then I think that my WILL will eventually come along side and start to decide to believe as well.  And my MIND will begin to find reasons why God exists and if i really tug hard with my actions i’ll even start to enjoy it.  

Or I can go through the intellectual proof first if that has the strongest horsepower.  Or maybe I recall how much I enjoy being in God’s love and let that seduce me back.  And sometimes when we feel no reasoning will pull us out, and we can’t really remember the last time we enjoyed believing, and even when we can’t keep our body from disobeying, we just turn our eyes to the sky and say, I am totally spent and all i have left is my ability to choose to believe.  I believe. I believe.  Lord help me, I believe.

Mark 12:30- and thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength.

why pray #1

A very powerful construction supervisor hired his brother to work for him as a manager.  His brother had MS and was curled up in his wheel chair, but he was very smart and could do the job very well.

One day the handicapped brother was trying to give instructions, through his slow, slurred speech to some new employees.  These employees didn’t believe he was a manager and they just laughed and made fun of him.  The handicapped brother knew his brother’s will to finish the insulation on the first floor starting in the far corner, but these new employees thought there was a much better way of doing it and mocked his idea and laughed at him. 

Finally the handicapped brother squirmed and pulled out his walkie talkie and radioed this message.  “The new guys don’t believe that your instructions are the best way to do it.  They need a sign.”

Fifteen minutes later a new team of insulators pulled up in a van and relieved the other team of their duties. 

Elijah was a man just like us.  he prayed earnestly that it would not rain, and it did not rain on the land for 3.5 years.  Again he prayed and the heavens gave rain…  James 5:17.

Prayer can be like the walkie talkie call.  God can show his will and show His power to the world by answering a righteous man’s prayer.

fractal purity

Why is it that when I work really hard and get some gross thing out of my life, i turn my eyes inward and suddenly see something new that seems just as ugly as before?  Where did that come from?  Will I ever rid myself of selfish, sloppy flaws?
 
A fractal is a pattern that is made up of little versions of the same pattern.  Look at a tree- a trunk has branches coming off of it.  Step closer and a branch looks just like it because it has a bunch of twigs that come off of it.  Look at one of those twigs, it has a bunch of other twigs that come off of it.  The same pattern exists the closer you look at the tree. 
I think our journey is like moving through a fractal.  Each step towards making something more pure or perfect, makes each remaining flaw more noticeable.  Even though it seems we’ll never get to the bottom of it, we have taken a step deeper into the fractal- closer to the center of God’s heart. 

 

It’s like climging a mountain.  The rocks and the trees exist at each new ridge but it is getting steadily brighter around us, even though we may not notice.  His light is the love that draws us closer and the heat is his mercy burning away our impurities so we will be ready to take one more step closer to him.

God’s sweet iMac

I think that for the 8 hours you are at work each day, your company owns you. You agree do what the CEO says, because he pays your livelihood.  That’s the deal. 

 

I looked around my set of cubicles today at work.  The other three workers in my section were working on their portfolio, designing a t-shirt and designing a car for school.  None of them were working!  They were using the company computers during company hours, to pursue their own goals!

 

But they can continue doing those things because no one can see their computer screens except each other.  They think that as long as they meet their deadlines, and work at least as much as their coworkers do, then at least they won’t get fired.  

 

But I wondered, what if the company’s computer tech was monitoring everything we were doing and reported that to the president of the company each day.  Would I change my habits?  What if every webpage I visit and every forward I read was shown on the big screen at the next company-wide meeting.  Would anyone object to me deserving to be fired (apart from knowing that they do the same thing)? 

 

Then I realized that this is a good analogy for the kingdom of God.

 

We do just enough to go to heaven. We look around at each other and say, I go to church more than the majority of people, and I help people when I can.  I don’t kill or rape people.  And we continue to do what we want to do on the time God has given us. But we are always on the clock.  We gave our life to him.  He owns us 24 hours of the day. 

 

And we sold ourselves out to him because we believe that his company’s mission is to ultimately love and mature his employees.(and also because he decides the fate of the world)

 

But what if God’s got a sweet iMac on the network that shows him what we do all the time?  Although God has given me every breath I breathe, how many hours out of my day do I pray, read the Bible, help others, or even just choose not to sin? 

 

 

Oops, my boss just walked by.  I gotta sign off.

communion- chew me up good

There once were two brothers.  The older was a quiet, generous and wise man named Able.  He had many talents and many friends.  His younger brother was a disgruntled shrubbish man named Sam.  Sam was usually spying one jealous eye on his brother’s girlfriends and possessions instead of seeking out his own place in the world.  Despite his brother’s subversiveness Able loved Sam as brothers should.

At a young age their father died and because the will had not been updated since Sam had been born, all of the money and assets went to Able.  Able always offered to help Sam in any way but Sam was too prideful to receive charity.

At one point Able had a girlfriend that Sam particularly liked.  She was elegant and kind and Able liked her very much.  But she was gullible and when the Sam saw the opportunity he told the girl about all of his brother’s flaws and selfish intentions with her, which were twisted half-truths.  But it was eventually enough for Sam to win the girlfriend away from Able to be his own. 

 

The scandal and the lies spread and spoiled and polarized Able’s friends.  Half of them now despised their formerly kind, wise, generous friend.

 

One day Able came upon his brother with the girlfriend in the park.  Sam, sensing a showdown sent his girlfriend to the car and stood up before his elder sibling.

 

Able smiled sadly and said, “How are you?”

     “Never as good as you, brother, but getting closer.”

     Able shook his head sadly and looked back to his brother with love and sorrow in his eyes, “She IS a good girlfriend, isn’t she?”

     “Oh, yes,” Sam replied, “She’s the hottest.  All my friends wish they were with her.  Every bit as good as you said she was.”

     “So you’re happy?”

     Sam twisted his head and shot a skeptical eye at him.  He assumed that all people were as devious as himself.  “Well, I can say I have what I want now at least.”

     “Do you have everything that you NEED?  How is your job going? Have you been able to pay the rent?”

     “Not really.  Things aren’t as easy for me as they are for you.  My job is a little bit rocky.”

     The older reached into his pocket and pulled out a small stack of twenties and started to count them.  “How much are you short?”

     “You know I can’t pay you back.”

     “That’s ok.  Here- just take it all.  I hope that’s enough.” He held them out to Sam. A few intense moments and gazes passed between them but Sam took the money. 

     Able looked off toward the car.  “I miss her, you know.  But if anyone can have her, I’m glad it is you, my brother.”

     “You aren’t going to get her back by your manipulations, you know.  I know you too well.”

     “You do?” He looked sadly at his younger brother.  He wished Sam understood the forgiveness and love he felt for him.  “Sam, if you want anything that I have, just ask. My money, my car.  I’m sure all my friends would be cool if you wanted to hang out with us.”

The younger glared at him skeptically, and then looked back at his beautiful girlfriend in the car.  He realized his brother deserved everything that he had, and even deserved the girlfriend that Sam had taken from him.  That’s when Sam got scared that he might lose the small amount he had to Able and he walked away. 

“Have a nice life,” Sam said.

 

Their next encounter, months later was through a window in a prison. 

     “I didn’t know who else to call.” Sam said with his head down.

     “I’m really glad you called me.”

     “What were you going to use this money for?” Sam asked, ”It’s a lot of money.”

     Able replied, “Hmmm.  I was about to put a down payment on a new house.”

     Sam looked up.  “Can you still get the house?”

     “Probably not.  But it’s ok.  Do you have a place to stay? Why don’t you come and stay with me at my old house.” 

     So Able bailed Sam out and gave him the master bedroom for as long as he wanted to stay.  Even this “old” house was beautiful.

     When Sam had seen the beautiful house and as he looked out the back window over the beautiful LA cityscape all that he could say was, “You even have a pool.  I’ve always wanted a pool.”

 

But after seeing all the beautiful things that his brother owned he realized he had never had anything he really wanted.  Jealousy took over him again and he decided to steal away with the most expensive things.  He took the keys to his brother’s pickup and during the night quietly loaded up the Stereo, and TVs and anything he could trade for good money. 

 

He left a note with his big brother that said, I see you still have much more than I ever will so I feel it is my right to even the score.  I don’t even have a house but with these things and the money I found in your safe I may be able to start a home of my own, like I’ve always wanted. 

 

Sam escaped cleanly and bought a small hacienda in the desert near New Mexico.  He was secluded there and felt safe from being found and safe from theives.  But one day he answered a knock on his door.  There was a very official looking man who asked his name. 

     Sam replied, “Why?”

     “Because, sir,” he looked at Sam like it was obvious, “we have a delivery for you.” 

 

They backed up to the house and several men installed the hot tub that had come directly from Able’s house.  The note that came with the delivery said.  “Dear Sam.  I want you to have what you’ve always wanted. You can have anything that I have. I want to bring you into our father’s will if you’ll just receive it.  We share the same blood.”

 

I’m thinking that maybe the gist of this story is replayed and represented every time we take communion, but on a much grander scale.  Jesus gives himself for us to take.  And when we take and don’t give back, he continues to say, go ahead keep crushing my body and drinking my blood.  I want you to have everything that I have.  I want you to be in my father’s will.

 

Mat 26:26-28  And as they were eating, Jesus took bread, and blessed, and brake it; and he gave to the disciples, and said, Take, eat; this is my body.  And he took a cup, and gave thanks, and gave to them, saying, Drink ye all of it; for this is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many unto remission of sins.

 

The part that just kills me- just breaks my heart- is that he asks us to kill him, over and over every sunday!  Go ahead, chew me up good and keep chrushing me until I’m broken enough to eat.  Sip the blood from me.  I can bear the pain.  I have an infinite reservoir to draw from.  I am God.  But you are the only thing that I really want.  You are the only thing worth possessing.  You are my love and the reason I came and lived was for you. 

 
 

But then is when the strangest thing happens.  This is how the rules of our God trump all others.  By dying, by bleeding, by losing all of himself to us, he takes root inside of us.  His body goes to work rebuilding ours.  And his blood thins and spreads and contaminates every bit of our own with himself.  By giving all of himself to us we become one with him in a sense.  When I kill him we both live, and live more abundantly. 

 

 

 

 

this is how marriage is supposed to work.  Each sacrifices entirely for the other and in the process both become one, and stronger together than they were apart. (see is He a he or a she)

 

And I do kill him over and over, but not just on Sunday!  That is just the symbol of what I do to him.  Every time I make a joke about a coworker behind his back, or I suppose even when I pirate software, or fantasize about a girl on the bus, they help put the splinters in Jesus’ back and help to stub his toes as he walked up calvary.  Each one adds to the weight he had to lift as he pushed himself up on his feet cleaved to the cross to take a breath. 

 

Shel silverstien’s children’s book, The Giving Tree just kills me in the same way because the tree is so happy to give the boy her apples and to let him cut down her branches to make a boat and her trunk for his house.  The tree just wants to make the boy happy.  But she is only really happy when the boy comes back as an old, old man having used up everything that she had given him, and decides to just be with her.  To sit on her barren stump because she was the only one that was always there for him.

 

And I think that is what Jesus’ whole hope is.  The hope that in the end, when he has given all to us, and we have pandered all the gifts he has given us, when we have no other friends to bail us out of jail and no other resources left that will bring us happiness, we will remember that really, he was the only one that never left us out to dry.  And he is hoping that we will return to him and be content to just be with him, and rest in his will for all of eternity.

 

prayer is a copout

I went to a friend’s house but he was not home.  A stray dog came up to me.  Both of his ears were cut open and gooey with infection.  He seemed so friendly and helpless and I yearned to help him.  But I didn’t want to touch him.  

 

As I drove away asking God to please help that sick, poor dog, I heard a simple reply.  “Why don’t YOU help that poor dog?”

 

Do I sometimes use prayer as a copout?  I pray for them instead of bucking up to help them myself!  Take one freakin half hour out of your day, Ross to talk to that annoying kid that you pray for when you see others blowing him off. 

 

Use your faculties.  He made us for a purpose.  And he made us smart or creative or athletic or funny for those same purpose! Our purpose is to serve him.  We can bring that beautiful kingdom to our earth as we shine on others with our words and deeds.  Tutor someone who’s struggling in school.  Bake cookies just to surprise your neighbor.  Start a good deeds club at school, and use all your cleverness, connections, or math prowess, and perseverence to overcome the obstacles and make it happen!

 

I have a list of people for whom I pray.  I have another list of people in my cel phone.  Almost everyone from the first list is in the second.  Maybe the next time I’m going for a walk and I remember sad little Timmy and his crutches, I should say a prayer for him.  But then I should actually call him.  I may not be able to heal his body, but I can be part of God’s solution to heal his heart.  

As real as your face

We say that God is omniscient, God is love, God is all powerful.  We label him with ideal concepts like these but God is also very real and now.  He is real and now like the mole on my face or the certain scratch on the face of your watch.

C.S Lewis says that the strangeness of our religion was one of the main arguments for it.  He says that Christianity has that queer quality about it that things have when they are actually real.  Just like we would think that all the sizes of planets and dimensions of their orbits would adhere to some obvious pattern, but the reality of this universe is that they don’t. 

Reality is always one step beyond what we can guess.  Try predicting what will happen even in your own life.  We may be able to say God is love, but we cannot say he will heal my dying aunt.

That’s one reason we prize master story tellers, because the plot surprises us. 

We know the next book by our favorite author will be good.  We know it will be suspense or fantasy, but what makes it worth reading is all the details inside.  We know that God is good, omnipotent and all those idealic ideas, but we must remember he has specific details just like a book or your 8 1/2 year old curly haired son or the chex floating in your cereal this morning.  And those details are what will be sitting beside you as you say your prayers tomorrow, for example, on your way to work.

Imperfect angels

I’m starting to see spiritual struggles as much less ideal.  I imagine that God has a certain number of angels that carry out His will and they can each only be in one place at one time.  Though they may be more powerful and intelligent than us, and don’t suffer from doubt or insecurities of their worth, I bet they have spiritual vulnerabilities and psychological scars from difficult histories.  I would bet some of them are hard headed, annoying, hard to work with, and they make mistakes like we do.  (reminds me of the angels in Dogma)

 

In fact see what is said in Job 4:18, ”Behold, he put no trust in his servants; and his angels he charged with folly:” 

 

On top of that I assume my own psychoses and my ancestral curses and the rules of spiritual battle make answering my prayers, and other actions in the spiritual world much more complicated. 

 

Also I think God has to find ways to help us while working around the free will he promised to us and others. 

 

When we pray a request it is like a 911 call.  The phone call has to connect.  The best, available unit must be assigned.  Then they have to fight their way through obstacles and delays and have to find you.  But it’s even more complicated because this is all happening in a war zone.  They have to figure out how to penetrate enemy lines and where to go where they will receive the least amount of assault. They must get inside and diagnose the source of the problem.  Then they must strategize a plan and execute your request- that is if they ever get there.   

 

In Daniel 10, a glorified being (maybe Angel, maybe Jesus) says he has come to answer Daniel’s prayers but that “the prince of the Persian kingdom resisted me 21 days. Then Michael, one of the chief princes, came to help…”  So it sounds like the good angel (or Jesus) had to really struggle to get free from powerful princes of the counterforce.  

 

So the next time it seems like no one’s fighting your battles in life, give ‘em a break, and thank God for them and continue to pray to strengthen them.  But we must remember that we just can’t get angry at God because it isn’t happening fast enough.  Wars have ebbs and flows and are rarely won in a day. 

 

rules to make dancing easy

A friend is teaching me to play the drums.  It is incredibly hard to triangulate my elbow and wrist and fingers to hit the drum in the exact spot every single beat on the exact millisecond it is called for.  And to do this over and over for a whole song!

 

Sometimes I try to distill the Bible down to a list of exactly spelled out rules.  I can drink as long as I could still pass a breathalyzer.  Maybe I can masturbate but I better not imagine actually boning someone while I’m doing it.  Can I break the speed limit as long as the rest of traffic is going faster too?  It just seems so hard and just so, mathematical and passionless.

 

I remember my high school prom.  I barely danced because I was afraid I would do it wrong.  How am I supposed to move my awkward body?  Do I step on every other beat or every fourth one?  What moves are masculine moves?  Why is no one else snapping?  What are other people thinking when they see me? 

 

Only after many years and lots of practice have I learned how to really dance.  It happens when I’m not afraid to look a little goofy.  It happens when I’m not afraid to move my feet and arms and hips wrong.  It happens a little bit by watching others who do it well.  But the key of what really brings the dance out of me is when I know the song and I love the song, and enjoy the song, and I really get into it.  It’s when I let the song move me.

 

Only after many years have I learned how to really love Jesus.  And that’s what it is- not following rules but doing what I know makes my lover happy.  It happens when I don’t obsess over the rules.  It happens when I’m not afraid to do something that might look shameful.  It happens when I let a Godly friend or something I’ve seen inspire me.  But what really gets me excited about it is when I hear the small voice inside of me singing the plan it has for me.  The plan to eat with a sad homeless man at the soup kitchen, to get to know the quiet couple sitting in the back of church, going to watch a high schooler’s wrestling tournament, or choosing to notice every bright morning and sparkle of dew, and unique personality, and scents of fresh bread and be so incredibly gracious for it all.   That is when the music truly gets ahold of me. That beautiful song is what moves me to action and that action of loving my lord in so many creative, impassioned ways is my silly little dance to him.

taking part in my salvation

I’ve learned that it is not me that gets me to heaven.  I can’t seem to stop sinning.  It is only Jesus who was righteous enough to earn it for all the rest of us. 

If I cannot be good enough to make it into heaven on my own, then why am I given tests and temptations every day?  I think Jesus, after paying the impossible price, lets me toss my nickels into the pot just to be a part of the cause.  He says, only I was good enough to buy your salvation but I want you to do your best to try.

It is like my father bailing me out of jail for $100,000 and he lets me give him the $5 in my pocket as if it really helps.  But he doesn’t just ask us to empty our pockets.  He asks for all of the assets to our name.  And this is not because my anemic bank account or my car makes him any richer, but because God knows I will be happier when I give him everything I own and live in his house with Him.

So when that temptation comes i should choose to do the good thing, not because it will get me into heaven, but because I’ll start to look like the one who got me in.

winning the war by losing all the battles

If the battle of the world is like a soccer game, Christians are going to get totally rocked like 12-1.  They are often stronger than us in all the areas that score points in this world.  But if we’re obeying the rules of our coach, something bigger should happen behind the eyes of those who watch us play.

 

Zidane, the French soccer player who head butted his Italian opponent in the 2006 World Cup has proven he’s tough.  Such power issued like a big bald gavel in the high courts of this world.  Yet what does even his own family think of him now?

 

I’m ashamed of my team when they win by cheap slidetackles and faking falls.  Did they make any posters of Maradonna cleverly punching the ball into the goal with his hand, winning the World Cup?

 

In Pixar’s movie Cars, the heated final race is skewed when the leader turns around to push his more-deserving third ranked rival (who had broken down) across the line before himself.  The goal had been to win a race but when he came in last the fans had been changed on the inside.  They were not crowding around the winner after the race but instead the selfless car who came in last.  Was there a bigger contest at stake?

 

What is our goal? To win the games of this world, or live by the rules of a higher standard as we play?  What motivated you today?  Getting that plush office and all it’s respect that comes with it?  Getting a hot girlfriend?  People?  Seeing the foster child sleeping peacefully in your extra room?  Holding your 18 year old daughter as she cries on you because she had no one else to tell that someone took her virginity last weekend.  You don’t want to be seen with somebody as weak as that do you?

 

Aslan had lost the battle.  He gave himself up to be killed by the white witch and she poked his heart through with her dagger.  But there was a deeper magic at work.  And not only did he defeat death, he rescued the captive Edmond with it.  Isn’t that how it works?  Only a man dying for me, in my place has the power to grasp my decaying heart, and pull it up out of the dirt with him. 

 

Someone actually died for me?  And now he’s back, fighting for me?  Gosh, who is he?  What do I say to him?  I need to wash up, get my act together- I’m so dirty.  “No,” he says.  There’s no time.  I will wash you. Just follow me.  

 

When we were in Bolivia, we met a shoe shiner who called himself Freddy Kruger.  He told us that his wife had been cheating on him with his brother for four years and even his mother had kept it from him. On top of that, an American girl on our team had comforted him and held him out of good intentions, but he fell in love with her.  She had to tell him they had no future.  Another dose of pain that tore apart his already broken heart.  Freddy’s main battle now was with alcohol.  Some nights Freddy would wander the streets late into the night, crying his tears onto the pavement and sucking on a bottle.

 

One night at 2am after we had been praying hard for Freddy he called us.  Two of our team went down to meet him in the main plaza. He was drunk of course and we brought him back to our house and sat with him and listened to him pour out his heart until the sun rose.  He told us stories of the good days before his step dad started beating him, when he and his brother would hunt pumas in the jungle.  He sobered up at our house and left that day.  We thought we had maybe gotten a stronghold in the battle for his heart.  He even called to apologize later that day.  We thought we had won a battle that could rescue our friend from alcohol.  We prayed and fasted harder than we had before and we had faith that God would continue to set Freddy free.   Was this the turning point in the battle?

 

The next night was the shoe shiner Bible study and we had a full house, including a drunk Freddy Kruger.  Drunker than I’ve ever seen a person before.  All of our efforts for naught.  He interrupted our Bible study with questions of why God had forsaken him and left him in such a pit.  We did our best to answer but he grinded his teeth and contorted his face and would not stop interrupting.  I slipped in beside him and put my arm on his back and whispered truth and love to him.  That now was not the time for his flood of emotions but that I would not leave his side.  I also prayed over him. 

 

Our battle had been lost once again.  The shoe shiners had seen us trying to help him and here he was drunk again, spoiling our one sacred hour of Bible study.  If there were spirits fighting against us for Freddy’s heart, they would be laughing at our shamefaced failure.  They had scored all the points.  Game over time to go home. 

 

But we had played by that different set of rules that night.  Our coach tells us that there is a deeper magic at work behind the game.  Maybe as those other boys saw how we would never stop loving Freddy, in his worst hour they saw a glimpse of those other rules, of the higher magic at work.

 

Two years later I was in Bolivia again for a week and I was told that many of the shoe shiners had just recently pledged their trust to Jesus.  I was told we had probably been a large part of why they did it.  We had lost the battles.  The fans had gone home, but had gone home changed.  The power of a sacrificial love had perhaps taken root and incubated in their hearts. 

And the higher magic cares not to win the battles, in fact the higher magic prides itself on losing if the higher rules were better demonstrated by the loss.  The higher magic despite losing every battle, can still win the war.  For our coach is not in the market for points or fame, he wages his war for the prize of our hearts.